It’s the last day of 2009 and a recent post on my “It’s Just My Nature!” Amazon page has brought me to some serious reflection about my life and being me!
In a nutshell, the post I am referring to is not a favorable review of me. The review is titled: Type 3 Tuttle – Rude, Abrasive and Self-Absorbed and she ends her review with “Maybe being a jerk is “just her nature.” To read the review just click here!
This isn’t new for me, I have been called a crackpot, anti-christ, possessed by the dark side, arrogant b____, and that I have lost my soul to the fame and money (this one I really think is funny since I don’t consider myself that famous and that wealthy compared to the truly famous and wealthy of the world!). I could add more but you get my point!
I am a white Type 3 female who was born in Buffalo, New York with some serious East Coast genes in my body, that was raised in Northern California outside of Berkeley and San Francisco during the height of the backlash on the Vietnam War and the rise of the Gay movement. I am also a member of the Mormon Faith, my parents converted when I was 3 years-old, so I was raised in a very liberal household due to my parents being new to the faith. I can remember we even had a liquor cabinet up through my High School years since my parents East Coast cultural influence was you offered “drinks” to your “drinking” guests to be hospitable. Even though I went to college and graduated from one of my Church’s institution of higher education – BYU, after we married we left Utah for 10 years. I was transplanted back to Utah in 1991 and it’s been a wild Type 3 ride for me ever since.
You see being a Type 3 female in Utah that is willing to live it and talk about my truth full-on can create a lot of flack and criticism from others. As is true for most strong cultures whether they be religious or ethnic in their influence, there are certain cultural rules and roles women have felt forced to live by. I seem to be doing a pretty good job of challenging “the rules for women” in Utah!
Living my truth has not come without some serious challenges during my 20 year career in the Personal Development world. There are many stories that I have never shared publicly. Each of them taught me more about living my truth, some will even surprise you!
I have felt compelled and moved to raise the bar for myself as we move in to 2010. I am starting the year with a special “Living Your Truth with Carol Tuttle” podcast in which I will tell all.
What I am getting more and more clear on is people that are willing to live their truth and speak it can push some big buttons from people who still believe they can’t be that emotionally honest. When we are not willing to take accountability for our lives and speak and live our truth we have to find fault with others to override the emotional discomfort that is bubbling up at a fast rate by cleverly focusing on fault finding and blaming, since this act seems to do a pretty good job of keeping us from feeling our feelings.
So, if you want to hear all the dirty little details of the challenges I have created for myself as a white Type 3 female who happens to also be a Mormon living in Utah, tune in Monday Night right here on the blog. See the BlogTalk Radio button to the right, that is where you click to listen to the archive of the Jan. 4th podcast!
I have to say I am grateful for my dominant Type 3 abrupt, to the point, determined nature, and my secondary Type 4 bold, blunt, say it like it is nature that has supported me in coming through every challenge I have been met with in my commitment to help as many people as I can live their truth with no apologies.
2010 is the year for us to all get more emotionally honest and to stop playing the “I need to act and speak the way other people think I should” game. Will playing the emotional honesty game bring you some unfounded criticism? Most likely! But your influence for good in the lives of others will be 1,000th fold compared to the criticism you attract as my experience has been. Hands down I receive an overwhelming amount of email from wonderful people all over the world thanking me for helping them change their lives for the better. For this I have learned to “suck it up” and take the negative judgments in stride as I keep my vision on the bigger picture of how living my truth is helping you and thousands of others live theirs.
Talk to you Monday Night!