Telling my Type 3 Truth~Going bigger in 2010

It’s the last day of 2009 and a recent post on my “It’s Just My Nature!” Amazon page has brought me to some serious reflection about my life and being me!

In a nutshell, the post I am referring to is not a favorable review of me.  The review is titled: Type 3 Tuttle – Rude, Abrasive and Self-Absorbed and she ends her review with “Maybe being a jerk is “just her nature.”  To read the review just click here!

This isn’t new for me, I have been called a crackpot, anti-christ, possessed by the dark side, arrogant b____, and that I have lost my soul to the fame and money (this one I really think is funny since I don’t consider myself that famous and that wealthy compared to the truly famous and wealthy of the world!).  I could add more but you get my point!

I am a white Type 3 female who was born in Buffalo, New York with some serious East Coast genes in my body, that was raised in Northern California outside of Berkeley and San Francisco during the height of the backlash on the Vietnam War and the rise of the Gay movement.  I am also a member of the Mormon Faith, my parents converted when I was 3 years-old, so I was raised in a very liberal household due to my parents being new to the faith.  I can remember we even had a liquor cabinet up through my High School years since my parents East Coast cultural influence was you offered “drinks” to your “drinking” guests to be hospitable.  Even though I went to college and graduated from one of my Church’s institution of higher education – BYU, after we married we left Utah for 10 years.  I was transplanted back to Utah in 1991 and it’s been a wild Type 3 ride for me ever since.

You see being a Type 3 female in Utah that is willing to live it and talk about my truth full-on can create a lot of flack and criticism from others.  As is true for most strong cultures whether they be religious or ethnic in their influence, there are certain cultural rules and roles women have felt forced to live by.  I seem to be doing a pretty good job of challenging “the rules for women” in Utah!

Living my truth has not come without some serious challenges during my 20 year career in the Personal Development world.  There are many stories that I have never shared publicly.  Each of them taught me more about living my truth, some will even surprise you!

I have felt compelled and moved to raise the bar for myself as we move in to 2010.  I am starting the year with a special “Living Your Truth with Carol Tuttle” podcast in which I will tell all.

What I am getting more and more clear on is people that are willing to live their truth and speak it can push some big buttons from people who still believe they can’t be that emotionally honest.  When we are not willing to take accountability for our lives and speak and live our truth we have to find fault with others to override the emotional discomfort that is bubbling up at a fast rate by cleverly focusing on fault finding and blaming, since this act seems to do a pretty good job of keeping us from feeling our feelings.

So, if you want to hear all the dirty little details of the challenges I have created for myself as a white Type 3 female who happens to also be a Mormon living in Utah, tune in Monday Night right here on the blog.  See the BlogTalk Radio button to the right, that is where you click to listen to the archive of the Jan. 4th podcast!

I have to say I am grateful for my dominant Type 3 abrupt, to the point, determined nature, and my secondary Type 4 bold, blunt, say it like it is nature that has supported me in coming through every challenge I have been met with in my commitment to help as many people as I can live their truth with no apologies.

2010 is the year for us to all get more emotionally honest and to stop playing the “I need to act and speak the way other people think I should” game.  Will playing the emotional honesty game bring you some unfounded criticism?  Most likely!  But your influence for good in the lives of others will  be 1,000th fold compared to the criticism you attract as my experience has been.  Hands down I receive an overwhelming amount of email from wonderful people all over the world thanking me for helping them change their lives for the better.  For this I have learned to “suck it up” and take the negative judgments in stride as I keep my vision on the bigger picture of how living my truth is helping you and thousands of others live theirs.

Talk to you Monday Night!

Carol Tuttle

Carol Tuttle is a teacher, speaker, healer, and best-selling author of five books. She has dedicated her life to helping people worldwide create the lives and relationships they desire. She blogs to support you in creating your ideal life.

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  • http://WhiteSageVisions Laurel

    Thank you so much for sharing this. It touches me so deeply. Being raised LDS (Mormom) with deep founding father roots to Utah, a Type 3 trying to be a Type 2 to please my family and community. I was introduced to Energy Medicine when I went to RN school in my early 30’s. I immediately knew it’s truth since I had been using hands on healing on my animals since I had been a very young child.
    Exploring this passion has brought about much predjudice within my medical, church and family. To make a long story short, my journey led me to work with the Hopi and Navajo people and their healers, formal energy medicine certification, and a wonderful new marriage to a Latter-Day Shaman, as some friends call my husband.
    My former husband tried to get me excommunicated from my church because of my belifs in Energy Medicine, which lead to it being okayed by the leaders of the church. I read Remembering Wholeness at that time, what a blessing it was for that confirmation that I was doing the right thing. I re-member more of who I am every day!
    Don’t ever stop being who you are!!!!

  • Dulcita Love

    Best wishes in 2010 Carol! Thank you for sharing your story. ~ Dulcita

  • Carol

    Hi Carol,

    I found out that our name Carol means ‘song of joy,’ ‘heavenly woman,’ and ‘free person.’ Thanks for living up to that truth! I am probably Type 2, with Type 1 in the mix. I appreciate your Type 3 style, because I get that it comes from great compassion, love, and the desire that we all be free to be our authentic and unique selves.

    Thanks for your good work. I wish you many blessings for 2010.

    With gratitude, Carol

  • Suzanne

    I just read a story about Jim Bridger and an account of him being the go between for creating peace between the mormons and the Navajo nation. It is in the book “The Undaunted” by Gerald Lund. It is mentioned how nervous the interpreter was because if they didn’t like the message they would often kill the interpreters. That seems pretty crazy to us, but it illustrates the responsibility of he/she who interprets the truth. They better be interpreting it correctly! But even then, there are people who just don’t want to hear it.
    Truth is truth. Carol Tuttle isn’t the first to be punished for bringing and interpreting truth to the world. I feel that your message is true, Carol. It’s fruits have been glorious for me and my family. I have had my doubts as to whether I should be a “Carol Tuttle follower”. But I now know there is a place for what you teach in every belief system. It is true! Bless you for being brave enough to follow your convictions and the inspiration you have received. May we all be so brave!
    I am committed to being Me! Thank you, thank you!

  • Lisa

    Dear Carol,

    I just finished listening to your blogtalk radio segment on Telling Your Type 3 Truth and I feel filled with love and gratitude. It is a feeling that I wish I could better convey to you, that it would serve you.

    Thank you for all that you do. I know you receive many emails expressing gratitude, but I just wanted to say that you have filled me with so much hope. I have been quite aware of my own purpose and life mission that has been deeply instilled in me and listening to you tonight awoke deep feelings of recognition that goes beyond my current conscious knowledge. Thank you for your wonderful example that I may look to.

    Thank you especially for living your truth. I am striving to have the courage to live in my own. I so desperately want to.

    May you blessed in a big way this year, as you move forward as never before in your glorious truth that honors the truth of God.



  • Kathleen

    Dear Carol,

    I’ve been feeling lately that you’re my new best friend. I’m feeling more and more that it’s okay to be me and that I really can fit in with my religious culture that seems to be a dominant type 4 culture with a strong secondary 2, which has been supportive to me in many ways over the years. I’m a dominant type 1 with a secondary 3, but I’ve lived a lot in my two-ness, and it drives me nuts when I’m sent the message that questions and creative thinking are unfaithful attributes in regards to religion. I think that historically there have been many religious figures admired for their bold, honest questions and creative thinking who sought to understand God and truth with more clarity for the betterment of themselves and mankind. I think that if I weren’t a type 1/3 personality that I problaby wouldn’t have come out of the mainstream to convert to and join my “new” religion, which conversion wasn’t encouraged by anyone that I knew. Thank you for the wonderful role modeling you have made available to people like me who love their church very much for many reasons but struggle to find their balance within it’s culture while still remaining true to themselves. Gratefully Yours, Kathleen

  • Tiffany Takao

    Your story reminds me of the criticism Dr. Laura Schlessinger gets all the time for her bluntness and directness with callers. I feel she is actually very compassionate, enough to say the hard things that people need to hear. Thanks!

  • kathleen

    Carol, I have great empathy for what you have experienced in Utah as I have gone thr much the same and have experienced a lot of shunning and cruelty in Utah because of my belief that I am good enough and I am very much an individual who refuses to climb into a box and stay there.. I am now living in Canada where women are taken much more seriously and seem to be much more liberated although of course there are chauvanists everywhere.

  • Cindy

    I am a mormon too. and single at 30 something,that tends to get stange look and coments. I have been trying to find a path in life that feels right for me.