Take Charge of Your Weaknesses… And Turn Them Into Strengths!

If you ever feel bad about yourself, look at the real reason you feel down…

You’re probably judging your natural tendencies as weaknesses!

Why Your Weaknesses Are Actually Strengths

All 4 Types in my Beauty Profiling system express a natural movement in their personality and behavior. If you honor those tendencies, they will become strengths. If you mismanage them, you might think of them as weaknesses.

I’ve invited the amazing women on my 4 Types Beauty Panel to share some great examples.

In this video, each woman on my panel talks about their own natural tendencies (that they once saw as weaknesses!)—and how they honored them as gifts and talents.

I bet you’ll relate to some of their challenges!

Marcy’s ideas will help you prioritize. Anne’s tip will help detail-oriented people get unstuck. Sarah’s advice adds some important perspective. And Sheryl’s perfect insight will help people who are precise. (Plus, you’ll love Marcy’s extra tip for anyone with a Type 3 spouse.)

Watch the video to see why your weaknesses might actually be your greatest strengths:

Thanks for watching!

Which tendencies are you learning to manage? Share a comment. (And before you do, make sure to watch the last minute of the video—we want every comment to be supportive!)

The women on my 4 Types Beauty Panel inspire me. They just don’t let their tendencies get the best of them anymore. I hope that you’ll aim for that same confidence and inner peace!

Start by saying this with me: I am a gift.

If you don’t know your Type yet, it’s easy to find out.

The more you know about your true nature and the nature of others, the more your understand yourself and forgo unnecessary judgment. Turn your weaknesses into strengths by discovering your Beauty Profile! Start here.

Carol Tuttle

Carol Tuttle is a teacher, speaker, healer, and best-selling author of five books. She has dedicated her life to helping people worldwide create the lives and relationships they desire. She blogs to support you in creating your ideal life.

Tell Us What You Think

  • Barb

    Thank you Sheryl for your comments! My daughter is a T4 (she’s 11) and she criticizes herself alot. It’s always bothered me for two reasons: one, I don’t care for negative attitudes and two, it often times makes me feel like a failure as her mother that I’ve raised her to have such low self-esteem. But in reality she is a high-acheiver and does very well in most anything so I typically think she is way too hard on herself and am often telling her “you don’t need to be perfect”. Watching this video, the lightbulb went off….I “get it” now that even though she is doing well, she is always trying to improve herself. I have been telling her lately to think positively and have been trying to use Carol’s advice about manifesting. I tell her that if she says she’s not good at something she won’t be, because that is what she is putting out there to manifest. Now, I will continue to encourage her to talk positively to herself yet still listen to her “inner voice” that needs to “perfect”. So thank you for your insight; the main thing I took away from this is that I no longer need to feel like I’m failing her and can honor her tendencies instead!

    • Carol

      Thank you Barb!

  • Emily

    I am a Type 2, and I really haven’t lived as one for most of my life. So two things:
    1. I am very detail-oriented but lost track of that because I was so “overwhelmed,” as Anne talks about, by what went into every task that I learned to turn that off. Getting my details back feels great and helps me to enjoy life! So thanks for sharing that tendency, Anne. If taken too far, that feeling of being overwhelmed can keep us from more than blogging – can keep us from remembering/using our gift at all!
    2. I care so much and am SO aware of everyone around me and think about so many different connections to the past, to the future, that I got to “bearing a lot of burdens”. I am learning as a Type 2 that the gift of being in touch with my heart and connecting with everyone and everything is beautiful – as long as I remain centered in myself!! That is a great thing I learned from Anne and Carol at last year’s annual event. I cannot give anyone my gift if I don’t give it to myself first by caring for me and remaining in my own peace! Thanks, guys!

    • Carol

      Thanks for your comment Emily! Glad to hear you are living your Truth!

  • Natasha

    Thanks Sheryl for your helpful advice and thank-you Carol for helping me understand myself alot more. I am a type 4 and I always wondered why I was hard on myself and didn’t feel good about myself. Now I know that I can still honor my true nature and still maintain my self-esteem and self-worth. Thanks again.

  • Judy

    I find, as a type 2, that I often don’t do things as I get bogged down in the details. It just feels like too much. It is amazing to me what happens when I let those details go, get the basics done, and then feel free to add those details back with the extra time. Even in simple tasks like cleaning the house, or sorting through a mess, I see every tiny detail of what needs to get done, and then I either figure I can’t get it right, so I just won’t do it, or I do it right and only get one room done but not the whole house.
    If I simplify it to the basics and get those done first, then I actually enjoy taking care of those details at the end. Fly Lady has been really helpful for me in this regard.
    I will say that I LOVED what you said about not saying my challenge is a bad thing about me, but that it is just something I need to learn to manage.

    • Claire

      That sounds so like me! I get overwelmed by all the stuff that needs to be done. One thing at a time!

  • Anita

    Dears at DYT. Is there a place where you comment about the use of anti-depressants on the four types? I have done the depression thing and never never want to go there again. I have seen my “personality” change as I have gotten on the anti-depressants. I am my old happy self again. Zoloft has also made me less critical and “cussed” (ornery), which is a blessing. I find I am able to deal with my own weaknesses and those of others with so much more patience and love.
    How do the four types manifest during a bout of depression? Which type is more prone to depression? What are ways to deal with depression for each of the types? How do anti-depressants effect the four different types? Etc. Etc. Etc.
    I would love to see Carol discuss this phenomenon.

    • Carol

      Thank you Anita. This is something we will look at tackling in the future!

    • Claire

      God bless you dear for sharing!!!! I know what depression is too.
      Antidepressant can surely change your personality. I find I’m more agressive ,not so mousey.
      Hope you are haveing a great day! Again ,thankyou for sharing what is still a taboo subject.

    • Melissa

      Have you ever tried St. John’s Wort? It’s been proven scientifically to be every bit as effective as prescription anti-depressants without all the scary side effects. I’ve suffered from depression most of my life, but ever since I started taking St. John’s Wort a five years ago I’ve been fine. If I accidentally run out of it I notice myself slipping back into the depressed state, so for me it’s a lifesaver.

  • Rachelle Hymas

    Wow, this helped me a lot with what Anne and Sheryl said. I have not blogged for a long time because I think I know that it will take a long time with all the details. Also, my secondary nature is type 4 and I just realized that when my secondary nature takes over with perfection, I get so depressed and shut down. I have always tried to make myself better, especially with body image after having 4 kids, and I really beat myself up and don’t match that amount with love and appreciation for myself. I didn’t realize before, that in that way, my primary and secondary are really out of balance. But I really appreciate, Carol, the suggestion to not silence it, but to raise the amount of positive talk about myself. I’m sure that will really help me feel happier and live more in my primary type 2 nature.

  • Claire

    Wow!!!!! These women are truly wonderful creations!!!!! Each and everyone of them are learning to love their uniqueness.
    what Anne said rang so true for me. I get carried away when I email my friend. And I become a tiger if I feel she needs a boost because someone is down on her!
    I also have many lovely ideas and want to do different things,but it may not get done!
    Does this mean I’m a 2/1 ???

  • Lisa

    I have to say wow to this video, too. It was very eye-opening for me-I have been feeling lately like I am living less of my truth. I’m a type 1 and I found it interesting that in this video I strongly associated/identified myself with 2’s, 3’s, and 4’s, but didn’t feel that I related to 1 as much. Hmmm. It has confirmed to me that my instinct is right. When I focus on living my type, I find much of my “problems” become extinct.

    Thank you

  • Pamela

    This was awesome. I could watch the 4 Types Panel daily, I enjoy the ladies and the insights so much!

    Thank you.

  • Gail

    Thank you for this video. I am a type 2 and what Ann said about writing on her blog is so true of me. I have 4 blogs and enjoy sharing but most of the time I get a feeling of dread when I go to write, but once I begin it is ok, sometimes I write fast just to get away from the dread, other times it goes away and I enjoy the process.
    I have been thinking I am also a secondary type 3, but listening to Sheryl about the negative self talk of a type 4, I am thinking I need to go back and study that type, I have a terrible time with this IF I am not feeling really good, I get down quite often and doing this to myself is not helping.
    I have more studying to do.
    I would like to ask for more of this kind of thing, perhaps on a type by type basis, knowing what fears/weakness these ladies have really did help. I would love to make my weaknesses and fear a strength.
    Thank you all

  • Gail

    One more note, after reading the responses here, what a help. Thank you all.

  • Heidi

    THANK YOU FOR CHERYL!! Being self-critical seems to override all everyday thinking and it’s terribly hard to manage, so your comments are very important to us 4’s!! I call it a niggling in the back of my head that goes on all day every day about everything! Recognizing it has helped immensely, but it never really goes away. Adding positive thinking has helped to balance it somewhat and needs to be practiced. Thank you all for all your encouragement and for helping us to not feel alone in our struggles.

  • Haylee

    I would love to have a 4 types panel with teenager type topics!! Or just using these discussions with teens. This is great, but as a 16 year old it’s not quite as relevant as it could be. Look at me! Giving constructive criticism as my type 4 🙂 gotta love it!! 😀

  • April

    I am in conflict over whether I lead with a 2 or a 4. I relate to Anne’s need to tame the need to share all the details. For a few years I have taken to saying to myself “Short version” when I share a story or a thought. This gets me to stop and think of the point. I also relate to Sheryl’s constant conversation in my head that tells me what things I can do to improve EVERTIHING! I have struggled with not being 4 enough to be a 4. I have come to accept that I don’t have to be perfect. I am a work in progress and I accept myself. I whole heartedly agree that when I am at peace with myself I am a lot less critical of my family and anyone else around me. I’m more open to give love to others when I love myself. Love you Sheryl, thanks for sharing that 🙂

  • Lori

    I just wish I could figure out what I truly am, I feel so 1 and 4. This info is so amazing I am glad I was brought to it!

  • your_master

    I am a 4 so I identified most with Sheryl’s negative self talk. But I also could relate to all the others. I guess I have more type 3 than I thought, because I often forget to ask others about themselves and then I feel very selfish. Now my mean little voice is telling me I have only the weaknesses of every type inside me.

  • Maili

    This discussion was very healing for me. As a 3/4, I have recognized my tendencies to interrupt or talk too much and to forget to ask others about themselves, and I am working on it. When I do these things, the negative talk can be especially bad. So glad I am not alone. Now I need to incorporate positive talk when I make progress. Overall, DYT is helping me accept myself and be easier on myself and others. Thank you, ladies, for your candor and encouragement. Love you all!

  • Karen Spencer

    I too, am so confused right now on what my type is. When I have great or even not so great news, I tend to get excited and start talking really fast and either interrupting or just going on and on. I love to generate new ideas and while I’m not crazy about the details, I can take care of details. If the project is fun (or if truly necessary), I’m all in for the actual completion of the project. Often I get told to leave the actual doing to others because I have a bad habit of accidentally hurting myself with sharp objects or dropping something on myself. I’m also VERY self-critical. My mother and my ex husband used to put me down constantly, so I suppose I jumped on the bandwagon …. LOL. Heck, I’m even the black sheep of my family …. LOL

  • Andrea

    Thank you for the video and every ones comments. I am a 2 secondary 4, I often feel like I got a double whamy of slow energy and wondered why since I am expected to do so many things and often feel ‘not good enough. At least now I know why I was labeled ‘slow’ in school,and I don’t feel bad about it any more. DYT has been life saving to me. I understand now why I judge myself so much, being a secondary 4,. and i do feel overwhelmed at all the details, then second guessing all the details, ahhhh. but when I finally get it done, every detail is “perfect”
    My teenage daughters and I visited Disney, ones a 2 the other a 4 ,when we were in the gift shops the T4 new exactly what she liked and wanted while the T2 and I second guessed every decision, it was exhausting. I appreciate Carols statement of increasing the good thoughts. when I have a judging thought I tell myself to think of ten good things or more if needed so I appreciate the good things in life or think of good things I would like to appreciate even if it’s 1 million dollars, 2million dollars, 3 million ….and so on, every dollar gets me farther away from the bad thoughts.

    DYT has opened my eyes and my heart, and given me a new life. thank you thank you thank you:)