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Are You Dating the Right Type?

What Type are you? Are you attracting the right Type? Learn the deeper reason we say, “they’re not my type!” or, “they are my type!”

Listen in as Carol talks about her children’s dating experiences and how Energy Profiling helped them. Hear how Carol’s daughter, Anne, used her understanding of Energy Profiling to find someone who was “just her type.”

Carol’s best-selling book, It’s Just My Nature, is compelling readers to understand themselves and others more clearly. Knowing your Energy Type will help you in creating a new or existing relationship to be incredible.

Carol Tuttle, best-selling author of four books, is an acclaimed alternative psychotherapist and the creator of Energy Profiling and Dressing Your Truth. Carol invites you to leave her a comment, letting her know how the advice and support in today’s program helped you understand your dating past and your current experience. Learn more about Carol and all of her life-changing products at CarolTuttle.com.

This is a popular question, “What is the best Type for each Type in relationships?” Again, you might be surprised by my answer! Are you dating your truth? Are you aware of how to find the perfect Type for you? This little video may just change your dating life! How did my daughter Anne find the perfect Type of man for her? Watch and learn! Learn your Type and what Type of person you want to date by reading my book, “It’s Just My Nature!” or by visiting myenergyprofile.com

When I interviewed 16 year old Victoria about how learning her true nature has made a difference in her life, she shared a story about having to make a decision to date or not to date and how knowing her Energy Type made all the difference.  Watch and share your comments, what do you think Victoria should have done? http://www.myenergyprofile.com

The following tips can help you improve your relationships; however, if you are seriously challenged by your relationships, get some help.

There are many new cutting-edge energy therapies that clear away negative emotions and negative thinking that make it difficult to create healthy, loving relationships.

Find a professional who is more interested in giving you tools and guidance in generating more happiness than in trying to figure out why you feel the way you do. It is not necessary to find out why we feel sad or depressed to clear these feelings.

The bottom line is, if we give a lot of attention to what we don’t want, we create more of it.

To learn more about emotional release therapies that are designed to work with the mind/body energy system, including thoughts and feelings, visit The Carol Tuttle Healing Center.

12 Ways to Improve Your Relationships and Your Life

1.  Choose to be happy rather than right in your relationships. This will prevent a lot of arguing!

2.  Repeat in your mind: “It doesn’t matter” when you can’t stop arguing

3.  Pay it forward. For every kind deed offered to you, do a kind deed for someone else.

4.  Write thank-you notes frequently. The energy of gratitude feeds happiness.

5.  Smile — even if you don’t feel like it. You eventually will!

6.  When you think a complimentary thought about someone — tell them.

7.  Refrain from making judgments — think something positive instead.

8.  Ask your angels to flow the energy of happiness to your loved ones.

9.  Hug someone — tightly.

10.  Ask your children to tuck you in bed and read you a story for a change.

11. Give some service to someone who is more needy than you.

12. Pray with your spouse and also with your family once a day.

Learn powerful techniques to help you create more joy-filled successful relationships in your life. Carol’s Relationship and Parenting Seminars on audio CD, Marital Bliss, Clearing the Issues that are Keeping Your Stuck and Single and Intentional Parenting, will teach you how. Just click on the titles to review these products and all of Carol’s life-changing books, CDs and DVDs.

Carol Tuttle is a Master Energy Therapist and the author of the best-selling book, Remembering Wholeness: A Personal Handbook for Thriving in the 21^st Century

This article is the second in a two-part series.  To read part one please CLICK HERE.

Lies we think are love (cont’d)

5.  I have to suffer to get love

People in abusive relationships are creating this pattern and are not familiar with healthy love and how it operates in a relationship.

If you were beaten, slapped, hit, physically punished in your childhood or that pattern has been in your family, you may believe that love is being hurt.

You will even sabotage healthy relationships to create this so you can feel your familiar experience again.

6.  I have to fix people to be loved

Many people have a deeper belief that if they are not helping people get better they have no value. If they have no value, they cannot be lovable.

The problem with this pattern is if you need to fix sick and dysfunctional people in order to feel loveable, you will continually attract these people into your life and they will not get well. You need them to be “unfixable” so you can stay “loveable.”

7.  I have to control you to make it safe to let you love me

Control is one of the biggest patterns in relationships. The deeper belief is “I will control you before you control me.”

It is common for two controllers to be together in a relationship both only seeing the other in the controlling pattern. I have worked with numerous couples where both are controllers.

I will ask them separately, “Who do you believe controls the relationship?”They will always say the other one does.

Blame is a big part of the controller’s experience. Victim energy is at the root of the pattern. At a deeper level if you still believe you are a victim, you may use control to create a feeling of safety to prevent yourself from ever being a victim again.

8.  I have to please others to be loved

This pattern is often the other common opposite of a controller pattern. It is more common for women to play this role in a relationship with a controlling man.

In this pattern the person always is thinking of other people before they think of themselves.

Everything they think or say is processed with the underlying thought “what will other’s think, what do other’s want, what do I have to do or say to make sure they are happy.” Chronic fatigue and other energy depletion disorders are common with this pattern.

9.  If I let you love me, you will leave me

Abandonment is at the core of this pattern. If you were abandoned as a child you may fear that the people you love get hurt, die or go away. In order to prevent this from happening you will not let a relationship go very far or you will sabotage it first.

It is common to hold the deeper belief  “I’ll abandon you before you abandon me” because you are still believing that every relationship ends in abandonment so you might as well be in control of it.

That way it doesn’t hurt as much and it is more predictable.

10.  Love hurts, relationships are painful

This belief will only support you in creating unhealthy, painful relationships. You will continue to attract people that you create a lot of pain with. You will support your relationships in being painful in the way you perceive them, think about them and the choices you make in them.

You will go from one relationship to another feeling victimized and hurt wondering when real love will come your way. Or you will believe you’re stuck in a relationship that can never work and feel you will never be happy.

What We Can Do to Heal These Patterns

The first step is to understand that your beliefs create your experience. So whatever you believe either subconsciously and consciously is what you are getting in life. If you don’t like what you are getting change your beliefs.

Many of these beliefs are at a subconscious level and are generational beliefs. That means that we come from a long line of people that have carried the belief and have created the experience that matches it. Limiting beliefs are also rooted in our childhood experiences.

You have a lot of opportunity to take control of the phenomenal power of your mind to release these old beliefs and create new ones. If you are really stuck I recommend a tool like Rapid Eye Technology that releases the energy that supports these old beliefs and patterns staying in place.

Look at your relationship experiences and notice what you keep experiencing. What keeps getting recreated in your life. This will tell you a lot about what relationship beliefs you hold.  Change your relationships by changing your beliefs. I recommend my book Remembering Wholeness: A Personal Handbook for Thriving in the 21^st Century to help you with this.

Healing the Lies So We Can Love Ourselves and Be Loved

Everyone carries limiting beliefs and patterns that they came to clear. In clearing these energies we heal the lies that we thought were truth about ourselves.

We thought they were true because we kept having the experiences that made us think “this keeps happening to me so it must be true!” As you change your belief, you change your life, and understand now that you can create whatever you want.

I believe that God set in place within each of us the real energy of love. It is a powerful energy just waiting to be awakened. Another person cannot awaken it. Only you hold the key to the energy of real love inside of you.

As you open and honor this energy by loving yourself, forgiving yourself and being kind and patient with yourself, you are then free to receive the real love others have to offer you. If you are a controller and/or a blamer, the first step for you is to take accountability for your life and own your life creation.

No one can create your life but you. God wants to co-create a life of joy, wellness and prosperity with you. He cannot do it for you, only with you. Choose now to create healthy loving, honest relationships that add value to your life.

Be willing to end any relationships that cannot be healthy. Hold as your motto or mantra,

“I am worthy of real love. I deserve to be loved and admired by a healthy loving person.  I am attracting people that can and want to create healthy loving relationship with me. I am ending relationships that cannot be healthy. God loves me and I love myself.”

Learn powerful healing techniques to release the issues that are causing pain and disharmony in your life and relationships on Carol’s best-selling Audio CDs Clearing the Issues that are Keeping You Stuck and Single! and her Marital Bliss : Understanding the Masculine and Feminine in Marriage. Just click on the title to review this product and all of Carol’s life-changing books, CDs and DVDs that are highly recommended by Dr. Mercola.

This season’s Bachelorette, Jillian is a dominant Type 3 with a secondary Type 1.  She is the highest movement any person can be with those two leading Energy Types.

All through the show, Jillian has consistently been drawn to men that are the opposite movement then her, Type 2′s and Type 4′s.  This is VERY common for people to be attracted to someone of the opposite movement.  In our Energy Profiling career over the last 5 years, we have consistently seen more Type 3′s with Type 2′s and Type 1′s with Type 4′s.

In fact in last season’s Bachelor, Jason, Type 4, ultimately chose after the show ended to be with Molly Type 1.

So to stay consistent with the common pattern, Jillian has chosen two men that are the opposite movement of her swift, adventurous, playful nature.  Ed is a dominant Type 2 with a secondary Type 4 and Kiptyn is a dominant Type 4 with a secondary Type 2.

Ed leads with a soft, gentle nature, Type 2, supported by a precise, exact quality of his Type 4.

Kiptyn leads with a clear, precise, structured nature, supported by a gentle, sensitive quality of his Type 2.

My prediction is she is going to pick Kiptyn over Ed.  Her high movement nature is balanced by the natural structure of Kiptyn’s Type 4 nature.  

Jillian is drawn to Ed’s sensitive, nurturing nature, but it may not be firm and clear enough for her ultimately.  She would be better off with Kiptyn who can hold his own where she good push right over Ed.

The fact that Ed left the show early, then came back is true to a Type 2 tendency to be uncertain about serious life choices and deliberate over them, choosing one thing, questioning it, then changing his mind regretting his first choice.  Jillian in her determined spirit would be drawn to a man that is straightforward and black and white in his decision making process which is Kiptyn’s nature.

So, that’s my call that it will be Jillian and Kiptyn.  We’ll see how it plays out next week!

My daughter Anne was the first person to use Energy Profiling in a dating experience.  Anne learned about her true nature when she was 18 years old.

Anne is a Type 2, subtle, connected, detailed, soft, and very heart-centered.  The first step for Anne to be clear on who she wanted to marry was for Anne to live true to her nature.

Anne dated every Type and with each date became more and more clear on what she was naturally attracted to and what she wanted in a companion.

She decided Type 1′s were not right for her, Type 2′s were too much of the same thing, Type 4′s were too structured and Type 3′s were just right.

Anne wanted that fiery, adventurous nature that Type 3′s have.

When Anne was 22 it was clear to her she wanted to find the man of her dreams.  So she told the Universe to bring her the Type 3 man of her dreams.  

I am a Type 3 and don’t like too many details so I am going to get right to the point and tell you she met him and married him within 6 months of that declaration.

For the detailed version of Anne’s Energy Profiling Love Story and to get some amazing dating tips to meet your dream boat listen to “The Living Your Truth with Carol Tuttle” radio show that was broadcast on July 13, 20009.

Energy Profiling is going to be the answer to a lot of people finding and meeting the right “type” of person and then riding off in to the sunset in to a relationship that is even more than they could ever hope for.

Don’t know your dominant Energy Type yet, well you need to know who you are first to know what you want in your lover! Find out now!

I find it interesting that in the relationship world we use alot of languaging that supports the system of Energy Profiling being a valid cause to the underlying reasons we are using the words and phrases we do.  We just have not known the deeper reason.

For example.  In the world of dating we use the phrase a lot, “they are not my type!”  We also use the phrase a lot, they have great chemistry!” when 2 people get along effortlessly.

Energy Profiling is a system that uses the 4 elements of nitrogen, oxygen, hydrogen, and carbon and the movement of each of these elements as the basis of what is influencing our natural gifts and expressions as humans.  Each element is referred to as an Energy Type.

Suddenly the phrase, “they are not my type” has a lot more meaning.  Also, the 4 elements are chemical elements so saying “they have great chemistry” about 2 people suddenly makes more sense!

If I were single I would use Energy Profiling to give me the added insight I would want when I met someone to know if they were my “type.”

In my marriage, I can say that Energy Profiling has been a huge missing piece that has helped both my husband and I explain why we approach life so differently and allows us to support each other more effortlessly.

If you are single have some fun using Energy Profiling as an added tool to help you meet the person that is the right “type” for you!

+Carol Tuttle