“Why won’t my husband listen to me?”
If you’ve ever said that, you don’t have to stay frustrated. If you feel like your husband doesn’t listen, you might be surprised to find that you can change the pattern without changing him at all!
Here are 3 surprising reasons your husband doesn’t listen.
Try out my tips and see what changes…
- You talk too much (without saying more).
Because many women suffer from a feeling of not being heard, they try to make up for it by talking more than necessary.
A husband will often tune out his wife after 10-15 minutes. When that happens, the wife intuitively notices she’s not being heard and talks more, in an attempt to get his attention. Husbands pick up on an energy of resentment and often deal with it by tuning out even more. Have you ever experienced a moment like that?
Your husband will listen better if you just share what you want to say in a few minutes.
- You catch him at the wrong time.
Some women ask their husbands to listen when they’re already in the middle of something.
Of course, you want your husband’s attention, but if he’s already focused on something else, he naturally won’t be able to give it to you 100%. Talk before he starts a project—and if you don’t, respect his time and let him finish.
- You believe he won’t listen.
If you’ve ever been caught in the first two patterns, you probably found yourself saying again, “My husband doesn’t listen to me!”
When you put that out there, you only set the stage for it to happen again. Great communication is the foundation of any good marriage. So communicate what you need. Try this:
“Honey, I really want you to pay 100% attention to what I want to share with you.
When could you give me that?”
It is okay and appropriate to expect that attention and time from your husband! When he gives it to you, share what you want in a time frame that honors his attention span and your needs.
He will be shocked when you say, “I’m done.” He will exclaim, “Really?” And he’ll be even more willing to listen the next time.
May you and your spouse both listen to one another with respect and love.
God Bless You,
PS. Come back here next week for some tips that husbands need to hear!
PPS. If you want to better understand the nature of masculine and feminine energy in marriage, listen to this recording: Marital Bliss