Ask Carol: How can I better parent my Type 3 three year old?

Every child is different, and because of that, we can’t expect to be able to parent every one of them the same. Carol Tuttle shares insight into what makes our children different and how we can parent them in the way that is best for them.

Carol Tuttle

Carol Tuttle is a teacher, speaker, healer, and best-selling author of five books. She has dedicated her life to helping people worldwide create the lives and relationships they desire. She blogs to support you in creating your ideal life.

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  • Alessandra

    The video is so interesting! Also my 2 year-old is a type 3 and really what you say is true… I learned how to relate to his nature. He’s high need, determined, pushy, lively, full of energy…I really adore him as he is, he’s really lot of fun and lovely and even if I have a great relationship with him, your course and book wre super helpful to understand him better.

    And thanks also to Anne for profiling him (using his picture :)) and confirming he is a type 3!

  • Erika

    I also have a type 3 son, and even though he’s only 20 months old, he is definitely all the things you describe: determined, persistent and pushy. He knows what he wants and he goes for it, and when he has his mind set on something, there is no distracting him from his goal. I am a type 1 with a secondary 3, which tends to come into direct conflict with his type 3 nature. Instead of being able to remain calm when he is getting riled up, I get riled up with him. It really spoke to me when you said that it’s not good to say things like “Calm down,” or “Relax.” I myself only get more upset when someone says those things to me, and my little guy is the same way. But being as persistent as he is, I can’t seem to distract him and remove him from a frustrating situation, which comes naturally to my type 1 nature. Do you have any suggestions for those meltdown moments?

    • Carol

      Amanda, My inspiration for you is you need to get out for a couple of hours a week and do something for yourself. Hire a 12 year-old Type 3 babysitter to come in after school for a couple of hours who will play with your child and go do something fun with a friend or loved one. You will be renewed and have less meltdown moments! Love, Carol

  • Amanda

    Both of my kids are type 2, like me, but I still found this found very inspiring and helpful. I really appreciate the insights that energy profiling has given me in relating to my kids and even my husband.
    Today I listened to Clearing Your Birth, which was also a great reminder to stop creating what I don’t want. Thank you, Carol, for taking the time to answer questions and share these valuable tools.

  • Michele Lewis

    I’m a type 1 mom of type 4’s and type 1’s and a type 3. Most of which are young. This was awesome in that it reminded me to come from my truth in relating to them and respect theirs. When my type 4 three year old closes up I’ll remember to give him his space 🙂

  • Type1Mommy

    In the midst of a yelling/ upset situation from my type 3 daughter, I always remember these two things Carol describes about them: 1. they are really good at wanting to tell people what they think or want, in a direct manner, and 2. very Physical in nature, so I often respond with a physical connect, usually a pick up big hug, or hand rest on arm, etc., followed by “Tell me (show me) what you want”. After she’s accomplished this, then I can give her the question she needs to ask to get what she wants, training in progress. In her world it boils down to two needs, Food and Physical Activity, which includes cuddling. It’s my role to offer her appropriate choices for the time/situation.