With Energy Profiling you can actually predict the potential strengths and challenges of any partnership. Carol’s son Mark, Type 4 is married to Jaleah, Type 1. Tune-in to learn how knowing each other’s tendencies has helped them start their marriage off in a beautifully empowering way that even veterans of marriage can learn from? Create great chemistry in your relationships with Energy Profiling http://www.myenergyprofile.com
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July 13th, 2010 at 6:33 am
Those two are just so cute together and I love the way they are able at a young age to know each other and be able to respect and honor who the other is. That is a big step to having a great relationship and Im proud Mark for taking the initiative to see that Jaleah had the information that shares who he is true to his core nature and finding out what hers is! That is pretty awesome that he thanked you for giving him the information on camera as it wasnt an easy thing for him to do in front of the camera! Whoo Hoo! May they be blessed in their future together!
July 13th, 2010 at 9:28 am
What a pleasure to watch this video and learn more about Mark and Jaleah and how they’ve used the Energy Profile type info in their relationship. I’ve read the book, taken the course and know that I am a Type 2 and I really enjoyed hearing how this is being applied between two people. I think it’s most helpful that both parties are aware and honoring of the information and I commend you guys for doing this for each other. It’s certainly going to be an important part in my future relationship as well.
Best Regards,
Sandy
July 13th, 2010 at 1:02 pm
I am thankful for the 4/1 combo advice. We are on year 12 and it wasn’t until year 11 that I (the type 1) finally respected my type 4 spouse’s desire to not have any suprises or do anything that could be considered fun for special occasions. Talk about warping the Golden rule!
I am so happy that Mark and Juleah can start out understanding each other. Year 1 for me was a definite hell as I was true to myself, then I adapted to keep the marriage intact, became sick-sick-sick, repeated that cycle yearly, found Carol’s treasure trove of wisdom and have been happily healthy, respectful of others, and true to myself ever since.
I’ve read countless marriage books over the years and “It’s just my nature” is the best around in addition to the bonus of it being the best parenting, relationships, and knowing yourself book as well.
Funny enough, just the other day while composing a lengthy email to my spouse about some issues, I was listening to the communication tips radio show and it had specific type 4 to 1 advice that made me laugh aloud. The verbalization that it put to my communication challenges with my spouse were perfect and they seem less of an issue knowing that they just are. And now I know why emailing is such a great way for us to communicate! It will be a good year during his deployment for us to communicate very thoroughly.
Thank you Tuttle families for sharing your lives in this manner.
July 14th, 2010 at 8:05 am
Carol,
I am a type 4 and my husband is a type 1 (opposite of Mark and Jaleah). How can I motivate my husband to want to understand my Type 4-ness, as he does not seem interested?
Thanks!
July 14th, 2010 at 11:15 am
Tell him you would like to have more fun in your relationship with him and understanding each other would support and help create that!
July 14th, 2010 at 1:51 pm
Great video…
I too, am a type 1 married to a type4…(we use the true colors spectrum which is similar) and our relationship has gotten so much closer recognizing those patterns in each other!
And like your daughter in law…I’ve learned to not ‘surprise’ my hubby with too much stuff… I let him know of something…give him time to think about it…then ask what he thinks.
In return, he respects my need not to have too many deadlines…as that stresses me!!!
Great video…absolutely enjoyed it!
~Jody In Beautiful BC
July 19th, 2010 at 7:41 am
This was great, Carol. Congratulations on your growing, lovely family, too. This information is so helpful and alleviates so much stress. I have two type 4 sons, a type 2 husband and I’m a 3/4 and it helps to understand and respect one another and not dig into trench warfare when we don’t necessarily understand what the other one is saying at first. YES!
July 19th, 2010 at 9:09 am
Thank you for this!:)
July 19th, 2010 at 3:04 pm
excellent video w/ important ramifications. all the best to the young couple. keep up the wonderful work, carol.
i wonder what jaleah needs to do with her bubbly energy while she honors mark by giving him time , etc. to switch over, to get the big picture? waiting , etc is not easy. is she a secondary two where planning in detail how to explain plans would come easy to her?
July 21st, 2010 at 7:36 am
My friend is a Type 1 like me and her husband is a Type 4. We both Love Carol’s work and talk about it for hours. It is hard for me to listen to my friends sories about her marriage because while she is honoring her husband’s 4ness he makes NO attempt to honor her 1ness. She has presented Carol’s book to him and asked him to read some of it but he refused.
It appears from the outside looking in that she often looses herself trying to adapt and is then not true to her Nature and then feels disharmony in her system.
I just listen with an empathetic ear as I have no words of wisdom to offer her at this time. I know she wrote in a Question to Carol but it hasn’t been addressed yet. Now with this video I am wondering if anybody has a similar situation and would be open and willing to share how they resolved it or what their experience was.
Blessings,
Jill
July 21st, 2010 at 10:46 am
I feel women need to step it up and make stronger demands when asking their significant others to read a book that they have found help and resource in that betters their understanding of themselves and their relationship. Lay it on the line ladies, why do you give men so much power to ignore what has value and is honoring and respectful to you? It is appropriate to say to your significant other, “Honey, this book has helped me A LOT in understanding myself and you better. I no longer want to conform to your way of life, I choose to be me and want you to understand my inner nature so you can respect me for that. I would like you to read this book and if you choose not to, you are sending a big message that you do not care about understanding me and improving our relationship.” If he gets mad, let him, so what!
July 21st, 2010 at 9:41 am
shalom, Jill…thank you for commenting. yes, i love carol’s books too.
i have seen this situation you describe.. hopefully more people will comment. your observation seems to be correct. i suppose knowing one’s secondary nature is helpful here because there might be room to wiggle to connect with the other.
the only other thing i can think of off hand is that the type 1 partner has to develop other social supports (friends, family, interests).
the type 4 is still, private, calm, sometimes stern, structured, a perfectionist. the type 1 is strong in other ways…bubbly, animated, inspirational, casual, quick moving. It is the strength of the type 4 partner to evaluate/critique plans, to need time to switch over, need more details before committing, to get too overwhelmed by too many thoughts/activities, etc. these type 4 gifts and talents are great for many situations, but as you say, they can squash the spontaneity of a type 1.
July 22nd, 2010 at 4:21 am
now i know why i have to ‘plant’ my ideas in husband’s head way ahead of when i want it to happen
July 22nd, 2010 at 5:42 pm
Just wanted to send a quick thanks to rahel and Carol for your feedback.
It is greatly appreciated and very insightful
Peace and Grace,
Jill
July 22nd, 2010 at 8:21 pm
One of the many insights I’ve become aware of through this/these videos in tandem with the books & courses, & blogs & facebook entries, is the types of people that complement me, & how or why, as well as when. The permission to honor myself, & them, is bearing fruit.
I’m blessed with friends who have worked their relationships, & offer me types of character & qualities that demonstrate what is important to me. The past is over…now I’m aware of the type of people I mesh with quickly & those I need to honor more as a result of Carol’s awesome efforts.
July 22nd, 2010 at 8:38 pm
you are welcome, Jill. I think that Mark is a jewel for trying to learn abt Jaleah. they are sweet together and i truly wish them the best.
thanks for your good comment, Carol!
I agree, it would be great if men would read Carol’s book or at least listen to the videos. they are excellent. so many people no longer read or can only read snippets, sound bytes. more guys than women are adhd/add , i’ve read. ,many are not so people oriented,they read techy stuff or watch action/thriller movies or are heavy into sports..
hmm, another thought…if a spouse is not a reader, maybe if a particular type one video or any of the types video really resonates w/ a woman, she can say ” honey, i want you to watch this… etc”. It would open a door.
July 28th, 2010 at 8:47 am
Only if “Inception” really worked! Then we could plant as many ideas we wanted to into our husbands heads. jk