While she grew up, people always tried to define her personality from her sister’s. Teachers, parents, kids at school all tried to tell them apart. Here are the labels they got…
Kristine was labeled the smart one. And her twin sister was labeled the athletic one.
And those labels backfired.
Both the school and her parents demanded that Kristine take the big final calculus exam at the end of the school year. And she wouldn’t do it. She was tired of the label and so she refused to live by it. You can hear the whole story here.
Which labels are bad
Labels are the way we make sense of this world. We give names to things so that we can understand and talk about them. There’s only a problem with labeling when it limits children, like it did Kristine.
The attitude of the people who labeled her kept her from believe that she was capable of athletic success. I’m so proud of her for living her truth and deciding to overcome that limiting belief as an adult!
Which labels are useful
Kristine has changed her life by finding an empowering way to understand and support her true nature. She has identified herself as a Type 3 in my Energy Profiling system. And if you’re familiar with the system, you know that it’s so unfortunate that Kristine would ever think of herself as not being active or athletic!
Some people express worry about labeling children through Energy Profiling. But we’re already labeling anyway. Why not do it in a way that empowers and frees them?
If you haven’t discovered how your child moves through life, it’s time to discover their Energy Profile.
What about twins?
In my experience with twins, I often find that even identical twins have different Energy Profiles.
When they discover their Energy Profiles, twins get to break out of their label as “the twins” and step into their own unique beauty. To see a makeover of identical twins (who don’t look so identical anymore!), click here.
I am grateful to Kristine for sharing her rich, dynamic nature with the women of this world. She is truly beautiful—and that’s a label I hope you’ll agree with!
Become a better parent… Create a better world. Look forward to Carol Tuttle’s new parenting book, due for release in Fall 2012.