Someone emailed me sharing they think they are a dominant Type 3. The only problem is that they don’t like it! They shared “I see this in other people as bossy and pushy and don’t want to be that way! Why don’t I like my Type?
We don’t like the natural expression of our dominant Energy Type when we label it as a negative quality. Type 3 energy has a swift, pushing quality to it. Would you stand at the edge of Niagara Falls and say, “You are so bossy and pushy?” Or would you admire this swift moving river and say, “it is so dynamic, swift, and pushes forward with great power.”
The answer is obvious. The more conscious we are of our natural movement, the more we can capitalize on it to bless our lives to be effortless. The more success we can create and when people ask us, “why is everything working out so well in your life?” We can reply..”because I am just a natural at living my life!”
When we live our true nature, free of negative judgment, we free the natural movement of who we are to fall into balance and live from a place of grace and ease.
Also, consider the possibility there is a time and place to come across pushy and demanding to move bigger things into action to get a result, and that my friends is the gift of a Type 3!
Do you think Helen (a Type 3 herself) on the “Biggest Loser” would have been able to lose over 54% of her weight in 4 months without the demanding push of Bob and Jillian (both dominant Type 3s) moving her in to action?
The next time you judge your natural expression to be a negative quality, and better yet the next time you judge someone’s else’s natural expression to be a negative, stop yourself and think of Niagara Falls and know that it is just movement!
Love your dominant Energy Type and you will be amazed how beautifully your life begins to work!
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May 14th, 2009 at 6:17 am
Hi Carol,
I had so much fun taking the online energy profiling course. I listened carefully to each of the sections on each of the types and was pretty sure I knew my dominant energy type. Then as you went through the last sections on expressions, how other people may perceive, etc. the Type 4 was just spot on. I even repeated those last 4 for my husband to hear. I didn’t say a word. Naturally, he tried to recognize himself, but as you went through type 4, he laughed because each thing you said is exactly me. From color-coding my closet and drawers to the use of the words exactly and stupid. The story about your son and the laundry is me too. He is so sweet to do most of the laundry, but I will collect some of my clothes in a secret basket to do myself because he won’t follow the rules. I don’t enjoy working on home projects with him because he wants to “git ‘er done” and I want to do it right (after he leaves, I’ll go back an do it all over to make it right). I could go on, but you get the idea. So then I submitted my photo for analysis and was told I have a type 3 face. I went back to course and went through all the 3 stuff again. Then I got out the book and went through that again, and frankly, 3 doesn’t fit. Even as a toddler I lined up my Cheerios on my tray and ate one from each end until I got to the middle (much to my families amusement). I don’t like substantial or texture. I have always gone for sleek and smooth; elegant and sophisticated. I don’t get it. I don’t think type 3 is a negative, it’s just not me. I’m confused.
May 14th, 2009 at 9:25 am
Hi Catalina,
Energy Profiling is an interesting journey for some people! Self discovery seems to be a game we like to play in our human experience! I would say ultimately you are the final say on who you are. i did not see you photo so I cannot comment on what I see. We have also seen when someone starts dressing their truth their physical features are more honored and more telling true to your Type. Quite possibly you could be a strong blend of the 4 and the 3. if you live in the Salt Lake area i recommend you come in for an Energy Draping. it is the most telling in seeing it in your features when we can drape you with the colors and metals specific to each Type. If you are a dominant 3 with a secondary 4 you won’t be the first person that has defaulted to their secondary. I am a dominant 3 with a strong secondary 4, I manage all my personal space like a Type 4, very exact, very organized and thorough. If I see a picture on the wall that is even barely crooked, I instinctively want to straighten it out. I fold clothing exactly, I have always kept my space clean and neat, my 3rd grade teacher wrote on my report card, “every class should have a Carol in it to help keep it organized!” i have a lot of Type 4 tendencies, but I am a full on Type 3 first, and my body supports that in it’s features. And….I love the way I look in my Type 3 clothes!!
May 14th, 2009 at 11:57 am
I have had the energy profiling class from one of your trainees, and I came up a Type 1, secondary 4. The Type 1 fits my early years, and I do look like a Type 1. I wouldn’t mind having more of it manifest in me. My struggle is with the colors. I have loved colors that are in the Type 2 category for a very long time. When she came over to do my wardrobe, it was almost all wrong. I love dusty blue and soft textures and I feel good in those clothes. I have replaced black with brown, and am trying to get brighter, purer colors. My question is, why shouldn’t I wear the colors and textures I love and am comfortable in and feel good in? Is there any compromise here?
May 15th, 2009 at 9:07 am
Dear Susan,
Consider the possibility you are not drawn to the Type 1 colors because your 1ness has been repressed. I see it all the time. Take our 30 day challenge and put yourself in the energy and movement of the 1ness that is truly you every day for 30 days. Everyone I know that has done it has never turned back. You are hiding out in the more subdued colors that are absolutely beautiful on a dominant Type 2. Be your true nature and let your Type 1 light shine on!
Carol
May 14th, 2009 at 2:46 pm
Carol,
I have been feeling the desire for balance lately and have changed my prayers by asking God to help me see the balance that exists all around me and accept it. When I read the post today I was reminded that perhaps I have blinded myself from this balance by focusing on “my perfection mold” (totally type 4). I have been looking at myself seeing only the things that I feel need to be changed, ie; be more nurturing, learn to relax, take life more easily, be able to handle ALL the projects I start ALL by myself, learn my limits (really, do people actually have limitations or is it just that they do not want to try? I fully believe I can do and be anything if I just work at it then when I get going I freak out because I can’t do it all! [secondary type 3]). Being Super Woman is exactly what I want!
My question is how can a type 4 for searching for perfection ever feel balanced, complete. I seem to struggle between the 4 noble, steady, strong energy and the swift, “pushy”, hard working secondary 3 energy.
I love what you do and have been very blessed to have my eyes opened to see myself as I was created. I can’t wait to get it all figured out!
Shauntell
May 15th, 2009 at 8:57 am
Dear Shauntell,
Well first off, true to your 4ness you want to get it all mentally structured! I tell my son who is a dominant Type 4, you are oriented to want to lead with your mind, but some things need to be lead from the heart. I believe living your true nature is a heartfelt process where as you just pay attention to what you are feeling and allow yourself to be okay with yourself and let go of more and more judgment, the more it all “naturally” falls into place. You will always have a tendency to see what could be made better, and how you could be better! Just notice it and love it, you don’t always have to act on it, just notice it and love it.
Carol
May 14th, 2009 at 7:09 pm
Hi Carol,
– I’ve trained myself hard to come to the point at work, but I love to meander, and the details, yeehaw for details 
!!! For the first time I actually consider being kind of unobtrusive as part of me, a quiet strength and not a weakness. And start to embrace being really anal about some things, hello 4!
I’m slightly confused re what to wear. I’ve taken your online course and identify with a type 2, but have some type 4 tendencies in what I wear (I work as an accountant) – I find the straight lines of basic office wear suit me, but I look horribly washed out in black and white. I love strong colours like coral and jade green, but have started to wonder if they make me disappear as a person. I tried some beiges today with a soft green necklace, and I feel more present as a person. Can you combine things to wear, like type 2 colours (which would those be?) and type 4 cuts? Thanks for also pointing out that 2 write the longest letters
May 15th, 2009 at 8:52 am
Dear Anke,
You will be able to learn the Dressing Your Truth program online in June when we launch out online courses. Stay tuned to http://www.dressingyourtruth.com. And, no we do not combine any of the elements of the different Types. If you are a Type 2 you will look you most naturally beautiful self by following the Dressing Your Truth for Type 2′s guidelines, and learning how to personalize it within those guidelines. I am glad your wanting it for yourself!!
Carol
May 19th, 2009 at 5:09 pm
Hi Carol,
Thank you so much for the book party at Red Mountain Spa last Monday. It was a lot of fun & an amazing experience! Even in just the short time that you spoke, lives where touched & hearts where opened. It’s such an amazing thing that happens when we hear truth!
I had an opportunity to talk with a few ladies that night after you spoke. What a simple, yet powerful gift Energy Profiling is! It never ceases to touch my heart & fill me with joy to see someone, who maybe for the first time, begins to see themselves thru Gods eyes. I know for myself what a life changing gift this is!
This whole experience has been such a gift to me & everyone in my life. But it didn’t begin that way…or at least it didn’t seem to.
When I attended a Dressing Your Truth retreat last summer, I went home & cried that I was a Type 2! I had been to an Energy Profiling class at the Center for Living Your Truth & I just felt so grateful & even relieved to finally understand why my brain worked the way it did, why I felt the need to asked so many questions & why I couldn’t just watch a movie & leave it at the theater! This was huge for me!!!
But, at the Dressing Your Truth event, I can see now that I compared myself to all the fun Type 1′s, hot Type 3′s & striking Type 4′s. As I sat there & learned all about the beauty of each energy type, I judged my own as less than.
I have felt at times in my life, that I needed to be more than what I was. Somehow what I was, was not enough. (Sound familiar to anyone???
) And hearing all the amazing things about these other Energy Types, confirmed to me that I really was not all those things that I felt others wanted, or that I believed I needed to be.
Something happened one night though, as I returned home after having my own Dressing Your Truth make over. I sat in the dinning room of my home, conversing with my husband, when my son walked up to me, gave me a big hug & with such a loving & grateful expression on his face said to me…”You are so soft”.
I can only tell you, that for me, it was very impactful. And why? Because he was right & it felt SO right! I had lived so long in a self protective mode as a noble fern, or even as an animated aspen tree trying to be & give people what I thought they wanted, or what I thought I had to be, that who I was was no longer even present! (At least in the way I expressed myself & interacted with others.) But, that night, with my sons simple comment & because of my experience with Energy Profiling & Dressing Your Truth…it now was! I now was more present than I have ever been. And it felt so GREAT!!!
I am so grateful for the opportunities I have been given through out my life that have given me the gift of being aware of, recognizing & even honoring all of these Energy Types within me. Each offers a special flare or “accent” to my dominant Type 2 movement & creates a perfect balance within me, that is unique to & beautifully edifying of me as a whole.
As I honor, value, cherish & lead with the God-given gift I’ve been given in being created with a dominant Type 2 movement – literally giving place to this reality of who & what I am – I am more alive in my day to day life, I am more connected & able to use my gifts in the way intended; to bless & benefit my own life & the lives of others. And in such ease, grace & joy to!
It is such an amazing thing, how acknowledging something so simple, that innately we already know, is SO whole-life changing.
Monday night at your book party, there was a question in regards to how Energy Profiling can help someone honor their truth. I personally felt so honored with your response. You spoke about how detrimental it would be to tie up a willow tree, to try & make it act like a noble fern. Image the freeing & life enhancing power given to that willow when it is simply acknowledged, honored & allowed to be WHAT IT ALREADY IS. This is HUGE…believe me, I’m living it!!!
There is such pure & simple, yet profound truth acknowledged, honored & experienced for oneself in Energy Profiling & Dressing Your Truth. And because of that, every aspect of ones life is so beautifully blessed. It truly is just the way truth works! And I am SO grateful!!!
God bless you & keep being you. I know you will!
Take care & bunches of Love,
D.D.
May 21st, 2009 at 2:08 pm
I have been struggling with my 2-ness and how I often tend to doubt myself so –feeling like I am not enough. I am confused as to why all the other types seem to have more natural confidence than the 2. Plus the other types seem to have many more traits that the ‘world’ wants & likes and that seem to make life easier – traits that mesh better with society and are more suited for interacting with others –more people skills, more assertiveness, more likeability, more confidence, and less self-doubt.
Yet I feel like with my 2 nature and being very introverted, I struggle interacting with people (my people skills in general) and lack the confidence needed to be successful in almost anything. Making money, relationships, social situations, etc. I feel weak and stuck in all these areas… Yet working on changing my mindset/beliefs about this too, knowing my thoughts create and I attract what I think… But at the same time it’s difficult because I see the reality of my nature (like I am stuck in the dark side of it) and want to see more clearly the strengths in my nature. I so desperately want to find balance with my nature and living it fully so that life may begin to “flow” for me.
I feel very much empowered, now knowing and being aware that this is just my nature –there’s nothing wrong with me (as I have thought most of my life, feeling somewhat defective)… and how validating it is to know there’s a whole ‘category’ of people like me…. But yet I struggle with being one that more naturally falls to the background and is overlooked. Why do we get so overlooked? I’m tired of having people just ‘run me over’ all the time and feeling like my soft, gentle nature naturally allows this, making it hard for me to “fight back” or stand up for myself. I struggle feeling like the skills to make it in society and life (to be accepted, liked, noticed, and successful) just don’t come as easy for me and my gentle, overly sensitive, self-doubting, insecure “2-ness”.
I can see how I have been resisting my true self for so long, trying to be a 1 with some 3, feeling like that’s what I’d need to make it in life and be accepted. It has been refreshing to feel I can let go of that and just be me, but I still struggle wondering if my nature as a 2 really may not be ‘enough’…. How can I bring out the strengths of the 2 to override the struggle of feeling like I/my nature clashes with life and society and still be my natural self..?
Why is it that 2’s have more self-doubt and less confidence and how can we go about shifting that? Why do the other types seem to have more of what the world wants and likes –and the skills that make life easier?
Is it normal for a 2 to get too caught in the details. Is this a strength or weakness of the 2? I can see detailed-ness as being a strength in some situations but feel like for me it’s more often a weakness….
I get so thoroughly caught up in the details of everything (and my secondary 4, wanting to perfect things) that I am always behind, and can never seem to get anything done!!! Ahhhhh! Because of my detailed-ness I am so slow in everything that I always feel like I’m drowning in too much to do, then I just end up noticing more and more details in everything to tackle, it’s a viscious cycle –perpetuating more and more behind-ness! I am going crazy with it! Even my thought processes are so detailed that I think ‘slower’ and so struggle to converse and express myself, by the time I have processed all the details in my mind and figured out what I think, the conversation has ended and it’s too late ha ha then I just doubt myself more!
(This is a good example of why I feel the 2 has more weaknesses!..?? I think my perception of my 2-ness is skewed a bit but would love some clarity and assistance in seeing it clearly and embracing and loving my 2-ness despite what seems like more very real weak sides to my nature than strengths. It doesn’t seem fair!)
–Ha ha looking back I can see my detailed-ness in writing this, he he!! Thanks for the insights you have already given me such as this!! See –now at least I know you will be okay with my detailed-ness in this whereas I feel the rest of the world would be annoyed by it. I just wish I could let go of the details for once and just get to a quick result and get more done like you, Carol as a 3!!
July 30th, 2009 at 11:15 pm
As I read through M.D.’s comments on her struggle with her type 2, I can really relate which leads me to wonder if I am a dominant type 2?(still need to learn my profile) As I have read through and listened to so much about the different types, I have been thinking maybe I am a 3/2 with issues that need cleared so I can really express my 3 self (struggle w/expressing & being heard). I am glad to hear someone else speak about the frustrations that I often have. I especially struggle with really expressing what I want to be heard, felt, and understood. I think I end up sounding crazy & a little unsure. It is nice to be able to read and share comments here where everyone can just be real.