I am joined by my Type 2 daughter Anne in this 4-part series, in this last video of this series, we talk about Type 4 children who need to be their own authority in order to live true to their nature. They are very analytical and self-driven when they are focused on what they love. Let us help you tap in to their strong sense of authority by parenting them true to their nature! What Type is your child? Go to http://www.myenergyprofile.com
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November 9th, 2010 at 11:05 am
Both my Type 4 children fit this video to a T! I learned quickly (when they were in Kindergarten) that they needed to have 30 minutes when they got home, to just be alone. It took me a little longer to stop checking up on them with homework, but I eventually did. Several times I had talks with teachers to explain how my boys “worked.” It’s nice to know I was doing something right
November 10th, 2010 at 11:08 am
Carol and crew, thank you so much for this series, and all of the other parenting help you give us!
With my boys (T1, T3, T4), my T4 son, 11-year-old Matthew, is definitely the easiest! He is usually so self-motivating that I don’t have to do much in regards to helping him with homework. Just last night he had a science project to do and after we bought the supplies, he got to work doing it all himself, occasionally asking me where this or that was. It was great! He is also a huge help to me as is very responsible and keeps his brothers on track and doing what is right. His older brother, Nicholas, has Down syndrome, and what a blessing Matthew has been to me and to Nicholas! He’s always been my extra set of eyes and ears, guiding Nicholas to what he needs to be doing, looking out for him, helping him, etc. I’m getting teary thinking about the gifts Matthew brings into our family.
Thank you Type 4′s for the gifts you bring to the world!
November 11th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
My T4 started making his own sandwiches when he was 2! I really enjoy his very independent nature and this video helped me feel good about mothering him. He is so independent and sees the world as he sees it, so I have to be extremely firm with him at times for his safety. Thanks for the great advice!
November 12th, 2010 at 2:05 am
This information is so accurate and describes my T4 son and his nature to a ‘T’.
Everyone needs to learn their energy type!
November 15th, 2010 at 8:49 am
I call my type 4 son ‘My Golden Boy’ because he always figures out a way to succeed in whatever he needs or wants. He is 25, just bought his own condo, leased a car and now is renovating the condo. He amazes me everyday. I am so proud of him.
It is so true that throughout his academic career, he suffered at the hands of teachers that did not respect his type 4 qualities-to the point that they thought he needed all this help. He has a genious IQ and the wanted to give him remedial help. However I tried to get them to respect him and challenge him, they told me he was incapable of more.
He was labelled ADHO- Hypo-active not hyper – Attention deficit. It was such a difficult time. When I see what he does now, I burst with pride that I could be his support for who he has become in spite of all the obstacles. Hang in there. They do grow up – but they need a cheerleader.
November 15th, 2010 at 8:27 pm
I’m a type 4 mom hoping my type 1 son will get some coaching from Mark when he returns from his mission. I’m happy to pay. Is Mark willing? My son will return home March 2012. Maybe there is something I can do now to get the ball rolling in the interim?
November 15th, 2010 at 9:22 pm
Hi Carol, I believe I am a type 4 and your comments about the type 4 child so accurately describes me as a child. I don’t take advice from those that I do not respect, never have. I have a great deal of difficulty dealing with disrespectful people (and guess what my family do). I have been labeled as lazy because of my stillness yet I accomplish more than most as I wait until the appropriate time to act thus eliminating a huge waste of energy by taking unnecessary action before the time is right. I was autonamous as a child and often felt wounded when I got into trouble for doing what I knew I could do, why would I ask you when it is me that knows whether I can or cannot do this. I often say the shortest distance between two points is a straight line and I really dislike going over the same ground twice, that is just plain boring. I have learned to enjoy the journey as well as being ‘end’ oriented and that has been a great bonus in my life, for a while there I was barrelling down the highway to the grave with my start and finish attitude. I recently went trekking in Nepal ‘Slow Trekking’ and I loved the ride as much as I loved the accomplishment of deciding what to do and pulling it off.
Thanks Carol, my type 4ness was never accepted in my family unless it could be used for the benefit of others so I learned to reject it in myself, thanks to you and your work I am coming to accept and love my 4ness, it’s who I am.
December 8th, 2010 at 10:06 am
Carol,
I am a Type 3 mother of 2 sons. I have a 6-year-old that is a Type 4 and a 1-year-old that is a Type 2. I have felt very connected to my T2 because of his caring nature, need for hugs, and his concern for the feelings of others around him.
I have really struggled feeling connected to my T4. He is head-strong, a bit obstinant, and hard to motivate. He wants to consistently do things his way, on his time schedule, and he is NEVER wrong….just ask him! He’s very intellegent and perfects the things he learns quickly. I have been receiving your blog updates in my email and love to watch and learn about Type 4 children. This particular post as well as the “How can my Type 4 child have so much energy?” post have changed my perspective! I have been trying to motivate him as a T3 would like to be motivated….get it done now, with precision and speed! I threaten, I yell, and I punish if he is not doing the task as fast as I would like him to at the precise moment I want him to.
As I watched this post and reflected on my son’s behaviors I have decided that some major change is going to happen in the way I mother my oldest. Thank you for your wonderful insites and for being willing to share the wonderful things you have discovered! You are truly changing lives and influencing many!
Sincerely and with love,
Nicole
December 8th, 2010 at 10:14 am
Dear @ Nicole, you are welcome, it is my passion to share my gifts and talents. Thanks for letting it make a difference in your life and your families.