I am joined by my Type 2 daughter Anne in this 4-part series, in this third video, we talk about Type 3 children who are very swift and determined and don’t like being told what to do! They don’t like doing things that don’t have practical value in their eyes, so some homework can seem like a waste of their time! Let us help you tap in to their determined nature by parenting them true to their nature! What Type is your child? Go to http://www.myenergyprofile.com
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- Ask Carol! Question of the Week: How do you motivate a child true to their nature? Type 3- The swift, determined child!
November 2nd, 2010 at 7:47 am
I am a type 3 and my parents implemented a pay system when I was in High School and it turned my grades completely around! I didn’t really care what grades I got before, but once they started paying me, I was on the honor roll and did very well. However, my little brother who is a different type than me (I can’t figure out what he is) still got Ds and Fs, so it wasn’t a motivator for him at all. Looks like I may have to implement this with my 2 year old who is a Type 3 when she is in school.
November 8th, 2010 at 9:37 am
this is a hard one for me… i’m a type 3 and my 6 year old is a type 3. i feel like if i pay him to do his homework, am i teaching him to expect a reward for everything he does? i’ve started giving him a dollar every saturday for saturday chores, but during the week he has little things to do that are just being part of our family/team. funny that you mentioned a reward system, because he told me he wants something to motivate him to do his homework like at school. i just don’t want to be teaching him the wrong thing… help!! thank you for this series. it helps so much. ok… off i go to make a chart for him to keep track (i know, so type 3 of me huh!)
November 9th, 2010 at 6:52 am
Sarah,
My 7 yr old Type 3 loves the reward thing too. . . and I’ve been concerned about the “reward” system as well. HOWEVER, true to his Type 3 nature, as I just motivate him with rewards like: money, play time, computer games, movies, friends whatever he wants, he becomes THE MOST helpful, loving and GENUINELY sincere little guy I could hope for. I really play on his desire to be fast, and POSITIVE reinforcement goes really far.
And as for teaching our children that they get a reward for everything they do, is absolutely the RIGHT thing to do! We always get consequences for our actions, and honestly, these great type 3′s do so much good, I hope they get super big rewards for it.
Good for you for being true to yourself and to your children!
Vanessa
November 8th, 2010 at 11:00 pm
Hi! I’m a Type 3 and always liked getting my homework done QUICKLY. Most of the time I would do it while I was sitting in the next class (right after it was assigned) or do in the class before it was due. As a parent myself now, I understand the concern about paying for grades. If possible, I would suggest making getting the “A” be the reward. I knew in third grade I wanted to go to college and that if I wanted to go I’d need to get good grades. I had nearly a straight A average in high school so this system can work (maybe only with type 3′s
Just an idea…
(P.S. Yes, I did go to college and did well, the other thing I realized about my homework habits was that for long-term assignments, papers I would start them immediately and then wait until the last few days before they were due (sometimes the night before) and get them done. I guess I work well under deadlines and the early prep allowed me to do well despite the last minute crunch!
November 9th, 2010 at 7:01 am
Ann and Carol.
My husband is a Type 3, My mom is a Type 3 and my oldest son is a Type 3. And we see EXACTLY what you have described in the homework world! And, we love it. I have so much good to say for my little boy and his homework. He has a tic tack toe system for homework each week (perfect for a type 3). He just needs to do three boxes in a row to complete the assignment. And he does whatever he thinks is the right amount to do. Usually, he picks just 3 things (to meet the expectation) and then if we make it sound super fun and do a couple more boxes with him he’ll do extra. But, since he was the only one in his class to complete the whole 9 boxes (way over-achieving) he felt a little social stigma and won’t do that many again. But it’s fine with us. He does his homework the second he gets home from school in order to do whatever he wants to do after that, and he loves “crossing off the boxes” and checking off chores (as did my husband!).
The trick now, is to convince his teacher at school, that fast is good and that trying to make him print beautifully and pay attention to details will put him in his own world—where he is a lot.
Any suggestions in addition to having the teacher watch this clip? I’m happy about my son’s approach at school, but he does just what is asked and then goes to his own world which bugs his teacher. . .
THANKS!
Vanessa
November 9th, 2010 at 1:03 pm
I am a type 3 and a huge motivator was to receive accolades once I completed a task – verbal pride and congratulations in my parents’ voices; a congratulatory glance in my direction from a teacher; being chosen to play on varsity team when I was a sophomore; receiving prizes/achievement certificates from school, sports, girl scouts…wherever!; being allowed to fill my days with things I enjoyed doing …ballet, sports, school, bridge, choir….in fact the more I did of things I loved the more productive and successful I became in them all; being allowed to compete with myself, put my hand up first if I knew the answer in school rather than being told that I was too much of an intense, pushy, competitive know-it-all! (positive attitude v. negative). In fact excitement over learning and competition was encouraged in my family probably because my father is a type 3 and my mother a type 2. I was lucky growing up – thanks Mum and Dad!