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The Quickest, Easiest Way to Make Your Wife Happy

Before you can make your wife happy, there’s something you need to know about her…

It is REALLY important to your wife that you’re truly listening and paying attention to her when you say you are.

Sounds easy enough, right? But there’s a catch:

Your wife knows when you are really paying attention and when you are not.

You might look like you’re listening. You might act like you’re listening. But your wife intuitively knows if you’re tuning her out!

So what do you do?

A man who is operating from his masculine core has a stronger tendency to only be able to tune into one thing at a time.

So when your wife wants to talk with you, you must decide if now is the best time to tune in to her. Ask yourself, “Can I give my wife 100% of my attention right now?”

If the answer is no, don’t just tune her out or tell her no! Lovingly tell your wife you want to give her all your attention—and determine a time (that same day!) that you will be available to do that.

For example, she might try to talk to you while you are watching a football game, working on a project, or reading the newspaper. If you are already involved in an activity that has your attention, lovingly tell her you want to give her 100% of your attention and decide together when that time will be.

This will make your wife happier than you know

When you have chosen to listen to your wife, give her ABSOLUTELY 100% OF YOUR ATTENTION.

Do nothing else but look at her and listen, really hearing what she is saying. You will be amazed by how much more quickly she wraps it up when you do this, because she knows she is being heard.

It is only when your attention is divided that your wife intuitively knows you are not hearing her, and she will demand more time to express herself. Try it out and see if you make your wife happy today.

May you and your wife hear and honor one another’s needs—and be happy together!

God Bless You,
Carol Tuttle

PS. Last week, I gave some advice to wives about how to help your husbands hear you. If you missed it, read it here: 3 Surprising Reasons Your Husband Doesn’t Listen to You.

PPS. If you want to better understand the nature of masculine and feminine energy in marriage, listen to my audio recording on Marital Bliss.

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Carol Tuttle

Carol Tuttle is a teacher, speaker, healer, and best-selling author of five books. She has dedicated her life to helping people worldwide create the lives and relationships they desire. She blogs to support you in creating your ideal life.


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  • Guest

    Okay, Carol, what if your wife doesn’t approve of you, say, watching a football game?

  • ken

    what a lot of crap

  • Mamabird

    I have a great listener as a husband (t4), but recently he was offering to do MORE to help me get what I need, but I told him that what I really need is more affection! I’m a type 2, and hugs, hand holding, small affectionate gestures like opening a door, mean more to me than having him listen attentively when I talk about mundane everyday stuff. I’m sure this applies to all types, but maybe more so for 1’s, and 3’s.

  • SetNick

    Well I for one don’t even know how to bring the communication back from the dead.

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