In this series Carol shares the most common tendencies that keep the 4 different Types of people stuck in a pattern of self-sabotage! Type 3′s have a practical nature but when their practical nature turns in to cheap and resistance they could be preventing the resources they need from helping them move forward in life. What’s your nature? Find out now at http://myenergyprofile.com
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January 13th, 2010 at 3:07 pm
Thanks for the advice Carol! Your books & courses have been very beneficial to me. I kept in mind your tips about gratitude and expecting a deal to show up when we were car shopping a couple weeks ago. Drove home exactly what I wanted for exactly what I was willing to pay! (It was still a bit more than my Type 4 husband wanted to spend but he’s happy that I’m happy.)
Another anecdote: I got rid of all my not-type 3 clothes after taking the DYT course but I was pregnant so I got by cheaply for a time, not wanting to invest in new maternity clothes. I did have fun with accessories & my hair the whole time though. Now that I have a 2 week old baby I’m starting to shop my truth so that I have some great things to wear! I also have a stack of clothes to dye.
January 13th, 2010 at 10:08 pm
Dear Carol,
I just wanted to say I think gold compliments you beautifully! Is it type 3?
-Amanda
January 13th, 2010 at 10:55 pm
Rich and dynamic is the nature of a Type 3 just like gold! Thank you for the compliment.
January 18th, 2010 at 10:56 am
Hey Carol –
Thanks for this reminder. Quick story…I’m a Type 3. I have been eying a particular robe from Victoria’s Secret for about 2 or 3 years now, but the price never went below $50…even on clearance! As I considered the colors you recommend for my type, I looked at “cheaper” robes and the colors were awful! In the back of my mind, I heard you telling me, as a Type 3, to stop being cheap and purchase the robe I wanted in the color suited for me. Guess what?! I’ve been enjoying my new Terry Cloth robe since it arrived and I’m so happy I spent the $50 bucks for it!
January 19th, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Yowza! This video surprised and saddened me a little.
I’m all for enjoying and filling oneself up with the blessings of life, but I do believe that it’s a little bit pushy to tell people to buy something if they are convinced they cannot, or more importantly feel they should not!
Someone choosing to purchase a Dressing Your Truth course over feeding or caring the family seems just plain selfish and irresponsible. Love yourself and take good care of you, but not at the expense of taking care of business first.
January 19th, 2010 at 1:37 pm
If this “pushed” some buttons, maybe there is something for you to look at in yourself! Type 3′s get labeled “bossy” and “pushy” a lot! Did you watch the video titled “Labels we put on our kids: Bossy, Pushy? What you are saying is a lot different then what I am saying. If you are a student of Energy Profiling you will understand the context in which this is being taught, and how helpful it is to know this about ourselves so we don’t let our natural qualities turn in to natural hindrances as life is flowing to us our good and abundance.
Every person would be incredibly abundant if we did not have beliefs and patterns that prevented this abundance. I am just pointing out in my Type 3- as you call it “pushy” way how Type 3′s get in their own way of receiving their good. I am going to assume you have not studied Energy Profiling based on the extreme comments you made that in my opinion are completely out of the context in which I was teaching them.
In reference to your comment “Someone choosing to purchase a Dressing Your Truth course over feeding or caring the family seems just plain selfish and irresponsible” I assume you are referring to my post titled, “What Excuses are You Hiding Behind?” Which you did not understand the bigger message in that either. You have reduced my message in both posts to an effort to just “sell” you my products. If that is all I cared about I would not spend so much time creating quality content on my blog that is helping a lot of people. My goal is to offer you quality content and share my products with you if you feel they are timely and helpful to you, and yes you will have to spend some money in making that investment. And I know for A LOT of people that investment will be multiplied in their daily life by helping them create a life in which they more fully live their truth and abound in more joy.
Hey, true to my nature I get you thinking since some buttons got pushed!
PS – None of the Types likes hearing the “negative” side of how we express our natural tendencies and gifts! Watch all the posts in this series to see what a lot of Type 1′s, 2′s and 4′s don’t want to hear either! But, until we are conscious of our limiting patterns, they can only live us!
January 19th, 2010 at 10:04 pm
Hi Carol,
Thanks for the reply.
Yes, I watched the videos and did understand your messages, and I have your books. I’ve also followed along through the online Energy Profiling program with my sister( I’m a Type 2).
Honestly, I didn’t mean to harsh your mellow here! I wasn’t referring to myself in this post, but the woman who felt she should be helping out family first and didn’t feel she could afford the program.
I fully understand that people make excuses and get in their own way, but I also know that people need to grow mentally, emotionally and spiritually before they can “allow” themselves to feel worthy…of both money and time spent on themselves.
I simply meant that if people feel they cannot or should not make purchases,then they won’t, and they will give themselves valid reasons not to.
Many people realize that making an impulse purchase based on making themselves feel better when there are pressing financial issues at hand is irresponsible. Many do not and end up in deep financial trouble. Some people know they want the item/product and are willing to wait until time and money allows them to have it.
None of this means I think your Dressing Your Truth program is not worth every penny, I’m certain it is! It just means that your words sounded a bit unkind to my ears when describing this person and her reasons (or excuses) for not buying it.
All the best,
Olivia
January 20th, 2010 at 9:15 am
This is a perfect example of how a Type 2- you, thinks what a Type 3- me, is saying is inappropriate. Consider the possibility that my Type 3 “push” (that may seem inappropraite and a bit intense to a Type 2,) is the reason tens of thousands of people have taken more accountability for their lives and are experiencing greater wealth, health and happiness! I tell my Type 2 husband when he used to “caution” me about how I say things, “honey, you would never say it that way, you are a Type 2! I am a Type 3 who says it directly and to the point otherwise my message would not be effective!” I can only make a difference if I am being true to myself.
As far as justifying your judgments of me and what I said in your theory that it may encourage people to be irresponsible with their money, That is another perfect example of a Type 2 making an assumption and then responding to that assumption without sharing the assumption and feeling you have to say or do something to keep someone from getting hurt! (Which is another assumption!) If you truly are a student of my work than I think it is safe in saying you know I never encourage irresponsible financial behavior. I teach people what is blocking more money flowing to them, so the money can show up and they can responsibly invest it on what will improve the quality of their lives.
If you have read my book, It’s Just My Nature, you will recall that a Type 2 tendency is to make assumptions and to worry about people behaving inappropriately and as a result hurting other people’s feelings.
One thing I am very excited about in the world of Energy Profiling is the change this is going to make with Type 2′s learning the nature of Type 3′s so they let up on trying to calm us all down. I was raised by a Type 2 mother that very possibly shoosed me every day of my life. So when a Type 2 like you comes after me with your assumptions that turn into judgments, boy am I going to speak up for myself and all the Type 3′s of the world who have been shoosed in to repressing their true nature!
Your judgments were based on how you experience and perceive the world as a Type 2, my experience is completely different than yours. Also, you might notice at the bottom of the post “What Excuses are You Hiding Behind?” the woman who made the excuses completely changed her tune and came into an affirmative stance owning the truth that she could have what she wanted, thanking me for helping her.
Thank you for your comments. This is helping a lot of Type 2 – 3 relationships create more harmony by understanding each other better, I truly appreciate your willingness to share your thoughts and thank you for letting me share mine!
January 26th, 2010 at 6:32 pm
You Got me Carol! The recent Blog post on how to keep yourself stuck for a type 3 really challenged me. Thanks!
I went ahead and purchased the DYT online course! Big step for me! I wanted to do it when I had the money and not pay by credit. Well, I looked over my accounts and there was extra $ flow because we had decided back in Nov to not use credit for Christmas, mostly because we are already maxed out on our credit!
Anyway, I decided that yes, I could make an extra payment to a credit card, or I could go ahead and buy the course. I jumped in and did it!
As I was listening and watching I had two opposite reactions. “yes! this is the stuff I have always wanted to know!” I thought everyone else but me knew how to “look good”. I am a “natural babe” who every time I tried to dress up and “look good” I felt really out of place and in some cases like a hooker! So I resorted to bare minimum and even go without any makeup with my hair up in a spiky bun.
The other stream of thought was something that needed to be cleared I guess. I had a sinking feeling like I had just been swindled! Oh great! what have I done! I’ve given my money to something not legitimate and valuable. Anybody could be teaching this stuff. I made a mistake!
True to my nature I had already cleared out my closet of all black and white and some of the muted colors that I knew were not right for me. With not a whole lot to wear, I had then gone to a consignment store and picked up a few things I thought were dead ringer 3 stuff. Well, after watching the section on clothes, I realized that I had purchased some things that didn’t work. Some had silver buttons or stripes and were too shimmery/shiny or “still” as you put it, even though they were more of the earthy colors.
This morning as I was getting ready I applied some of the things that I learned and I am very pleased with the results. I’m wearing a jean jacket as I write this and it is the first time in my life that I have done that. It feels fine and like Carol said, not too heavy, like I thought it would. I am not even going anywhere in particular today except to pick up my kindergartener.
That nervous feeling like I had done something wrong by buying the course I am now realizing was growth happening.
I had the thought while I was watching the makeup section, “oh, my heck! this will take me forever! I can’t spend that much time doing my makeup!” But, having already purchased some eyeshadow colors that actually are a match, I have learned from the course how to apply them to my eyes. I put the colors on while following my natural angles and then I put the liner on last! I was amazed with the results! Even with just that subtle of a change!
I’m still wondering about all the foundation etc. but I’m keeping my mind open. I wondered how I could hold my baby close and let him slobber on me with all of that on! Isn’t that funny! So practical!
Anyway, I am still churning and shifting over this action that I have taken. I love it! I love not being stuck, even though it is scaring my pants off! (Literally! lol)
I am wondering about how in the world I’ll be able to buy all of the products and clothes. I have been very cheap with everything I put on my body and I know a lot of other 3s that have done the same thing. My mom is a 3 (I think). She wore the same style of polyester pants and blouses for years! Her version of dressing up is blush and lipstick! I am not knocking her though because she is a beautiful lady! She has wonderful light olive skin with beautiful age spots! She is 80 and barely gray. Anyway, I certainly didn’t learn the art of makeup application from her. But I did learn to love my natural beauty and now I am learning to enhance my natural beauty and be my best self! I am almost in tears as I write this because I know it is true. This is good stuff! I feel like I have tools and with time and patience I can learn how to do this. (time and patience are not natural for me, but they can be learned) Doing this without knowing those tendencies wouldn’t be as effective.
Now, I have 4 daughters and 1 son and with all of my heart I want them to learn much sooner than I did how to dress and groom and be appropriately beautiful/handsome in all situations. Even on the volleyball court! That is a question I have. I’d like to see some work out clothes that are type 3! Black and white are out, hmm…I’ll have to go through my workout clothes now! Bye!
Thanks so much!
Suzanne