Every Type of person has natural gifts and tendencies that are innately designed to help us create success, harmony and abundance. We all allow these same natural expressions to “get the best” of us and we use these same expressions in dysfunctional ways. Being more mindful of this quality in human nature will help you understand yourself and others better and isn’t that what creates wonderful relationships? More understanding and mindful management of ourselves and others? Do you see yourself in this video? Share your comments. Learn more about your true nature and what Type of person you are at http://myenergyprofile.com
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January 25th, 2011 at 7:16 am
As a T3 I have to work on making sure that my intensity doesn’t turn people off and cause them to disconnect which is challanging because I am naturally intense and passionate in my expression. I think it is just as important that I allow room for them to ‘be right’ and not assume my way is the right way. I think it would be a huge benefit if T4s, along with considering the delivery of their message, would not always assume the worst. This has to be the biggest strain on my communication with T4s. I can handle their bluntness better than their assumption that what I am saying to them means something different then what is being said.
January 31st, 2011 at 11:47 am
In my life, it’s the T2′s that do that so much to me and it causes so much chaos and then the passive resistant sulking just amps it up all the more. It makes me feel so unloved, unheard and like giving up, as the worst is my DH.
January 25th, 2011 at 10:15 am
Dear Carol Tuttle, just for fun, ‘type 4 cookies’:www.joyofbaking.com/CheckerboardCookies.html
January 25th, 2011 at 12:22 pm
Thank you so much for posting this video! I am a 4/1 and my husband is a 4/3. I have noticed as we have both been striving to dress and live our truth, we have a much more harmonious marriage. We now listen to each other better, and try to understand each other’s point of view. Knowing that my husband is a type 4 (he has lived VERY type 2 his whole life) has given me the ability to honor him more, instead of walk all over him. Also, as he has realized his need to have the “push” that type 3′s need, he has learned to push in other aspects of life besides our disagreements. It is great! Our marriage is the best it has EVER been! Thanks in great part to DYT!
Also, as I have come to know myself, and my inner world better, I have become much more reflective instead of openly opinionated…Like I have given myself permission to be more inner expressive, instead of outer. I feel like I now know when to express an opinion and when not to, and also the level of expression that I need. I am much more calm, and SO much more assured of myself. I never knew that DYT would be an inner self-improvement! I can’t wait to see what the future holds for me and my husband!
I LOVE DYT! Thank you, Carol!
January 25th, 2011 at 12:52 pm
Carol and Sarah, thank you for this message. You have reminded me that the behavior I show my husband always gets reflected back to me. I’ve even acknowledged to him during arguments that “I know it’s my fault whenever you’re rude to me, it’s because I’ve been grumpy and rude to you first.” He can be very sweet and loving but that disappears if I am overly critical of him. So, yes, I do have the power to create healthy relationships–if I will use it! Last night I was very tired and grumpy but decided to keep the criticism of him in my head instead of saying it–and today I feel much better and thankfully have no damaged feelings to repair.
January 31st, 2011 at 9:14 am
As a T4/2 I find myself only ever being blunt if there is real need, like if someone is being hurtful. I can count on one hand the times I have had to be “rude” to get my point across. Most of the time for me I feel as though my opinions don’t get heard or others don’t look to me as an authority. I hardly ever speak up after my opinion has been stated and I wait(grumbling to myself or family member) until things happen the way I said they would. Then I stand back, shake my head and say to myself “if they would have listened it would have saved them a headache”. I never rub it in, just enjoy watching as the salt of the action takes on the burning sensation. Really, all my life, people have told me how sweet and loving I am. If only they knew of the conversations I had with myself.
January 31st, 2011 at 11:55 am
This was so helpful. Thank you very, very much.
January 31st, 2011 at 1:03 pm
Very good Carol and Sarah! As a T4 I feel the love.
T4 is very powerful – for bad or good. My friend, Roger, T4, passed many years ago. He made everyone in his presence feel like they were royalty. He had the most magnificent way of bringing out the good in people. He’s my example of what I hope to continue to develop with my natural T4 energy. T4′s can bring out the good – when we give a compliment, people KNOW we mean it. If we look at it with those eyes, it’s a brilliant way of making things better (perfecting). People respond so much better to positive than to negative. I have a long way to go before I’m like Roger, but I recognize this as truth.
July 16th, 2011 at 6:43 am
Thank you for this! I’m going to have to come back and listen to it again from time to time as you made some good points that I need to keep in mind and put into practice.