Every Type of person has natural gifts and tendencies that innately designed to help us create success, harmony and abundance. We all allow these same natural expressions to “get the best” of us and we use these same expressions in dysfunctional ways. Being more mindful of this quality in human nature will help you understand yourself and others better and isn’t that what creates wonderful relationships? More understanding and mindful management of ourselves and others? Do you see yourself in this video? Share your comments. Learn more about your true nature and what Type of person you are at http://myenergyprofile.com
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January 4th, 2011 at 8:21 am
Do Type 1′s, more than any other type, have a tendency to see themselves as having ADD? (trying to figure out if I’m type 1 or type 3)
January 4th, 2011 at 9:25 am
Dear @Val, thanks for your question. You can find the answer to your question in this blog post: Could ADHD really be a gift, not a disorder!
http://thecarolblog.com/energyprofiling/could-adhd-really-be-a-gift-not-a-disorder
Make sure you read both of either of my books about the profiling:
“Discover Your Personal Beauty Profile” found at http://www.dressingyourtruth.com
“It’s Just My Nature!” found at http://myenergyprofile.com
And go through the online Profiling course available on each site. Trying to determine your Type from just the information on this blog is inadequate and will not provide you with enough information to assess yourself properly.
I encourage you to closely pay attention to your facial characteristics and your body language. Also what did people say about you when you were little. I give you some fabulous assessment tips on how to determine your correct Type in my “Discover Your Personal Beauty Profile” book.
January 4th, 2011 at 9:51 am
I know this vlog is specific to T1s, however, I cannot help but relate some of the discussion to threads posted on the LYT forum.
Some of this vlog indicates that the T1s allowing themselves to wear silver or black defeats the benefits of DYT and does not allow for its full potential. I am thinking you are talking about this in a bigger picture than the following, however, …
If someone is doing everything else DYT, but their wedding band is the wrong metal, does it truly make or break a successful DYT expression of their true nature – especially if everything else about the band is correct – i.e. texture and shapes?
Another part of the vlog discusses not using your energy type as an excuse to give yourself permission to ‘write-off’ a dysfunctional habit true to your type, but that EP is a tool to help you learn how to be mindful and prevent the habit or the unwanted outcome that could evolve from the habit. Thank you for this confirmation that knowing your Type is not a free pass to not be considerate of others.
In the vlog, Carol says, “Probably not in your best interest… don’t need to change this because it is disturbing to your relationships.” “How will this affect your relationships and do I want that?”
Okay, relating this to gifts people receive that aren’t true to a person’s Type. Gifts involve, two or more persons and I think the giver’s type and their feelings need to be considered (especially if they are not as aware of the specifics of DYT) before returning or exchanging – especially if this person is a spouse or immediate family member. Do the guidelines and recommendations of DYT trump the feelings of the gift giver? Are we failing to be true to ourselves when we occasionally wear a gift or an item of sentimental value that has been given to us?
January 4th, 2011 at 10:03 am
Dear @Kristine, great comment and questions. I believe each person has to answer them personally! Energy/Beauty Profiling and Dressing Your Truth is a model to support us more fully living and looking our truth and not a program that should dictate every decision about being true to ourselves. I personally choose to change my wedding band when the perfect one showed up for me, and my husband was all for it, So many people make their choices due to the belief they have to please others first, if choosing what they want ruffles a few feathers, let the feathers be ruffled!
January 4th, 2011 at 10:48 am
This confirms what you consistently teach: we are our own beauty experts! I really embrace your statement ‘when the perfect one showed up for me’.
Understanding EP has made ruffling a few feathers a potential win/win for all parties involved – it is amazing! Thank you, Carol.
January 4th, 2011 at 11:51 am
PS I think ruffling feathers may come naturally for me, LOL, and my T2 hubby likes to calm it down a bit, but that is a whole different topic!
January 4th, 2011 at 1:55 pm
Yes, us Type 3′s seem to very good at unintentionally ruffling the feathers of our Type 2 loved ones, and how freeing it is when they understand and support us and stop getting so ruffled!!
January 4th, 2011 at 12:10 pm
I am sooooo glad my ring is a type one. Bright shiny gold and perfectly wonderful!
Isn’t that interesting how we would be afraid of offending someone who GIVES us a gift as if we need to stroke the ego of the gift giver. I would think that the gift was for the receiver.
January 4th, 2011 at 12:37 pm
Hi Carol and Sarah,
Great blog post! I just had a situation this morning with my husband where my Type 1 nature to get distracted and drop the ball played a part in an interaction. Your advice to admit it openly and apologize was right on!
Also, just an observation about black and Type 1′s. As a musician, I’ve had to wear black alot this past Christmas season during group performances – black being the “uniform”. Wow! Black is such a heavy color and impacts my energy so dramatically, such an energy drain.
I hadn’t worn black since August when I began DYT. I looked in the mirror with myself in black, and I was shocked by how much it aged me and made all the wrinkles appear on my skin and made me look heavier. I’ve felt so great, upbeat, light and optimistic, in all my Type 1 colors. No going back to black (except when required) for me!
January 4th, 2011 at 1:56 pm
Dear @Kathleen, so fabulous for you to take ownership, thanks for your example. And I love, love, love your story about the black…right on sister! Keep Dressing Your Truth and own that beauty!
January 4th, 2011 at 12:40 pm
Just another note to share. One of my musical groups required black on the bottom and white on the top. I was able to find a white blouse that had a white on white plaid print, bringing more animation and that also had a crisp and perky ruffle outlining all the edges of the blouse. It added so much of a Type 1 feel to the outfit and I felt great for that concert!
January 4th, 2011 at 1:56 pm
Look at you go with your Type 1 ideas in how to make it work in spite of the black!! Brilliant, just like you!
January 4th, 2011 at 8:28 pm
I am a little confused. Not sure when trying to become more structured in my life is a bad thing or a good thing. In what I have read Carol mentions not to try to change my nature and become more structured( I am a type 1) so how in the world would I ever keep my house clean or feed my family on time (today we ate breakfast at ten!) But every time I try to make a structured outline for my day my type 4 secondary takes over and then I lost my type 1. I always tell my husband he can have a clean house with a military mother or a messy house with a fun mother. I don’t know how to do both. HELP!
January 4th, 2011 at 11:08 pm
Mandy, it really isn’t necessary to become a type four in order to feed your family on-time….you just need to approach things from your T1 strengths and motivation. For example, I am a T1 and I want to make the people that I care about are happy. The T1 desire to not disappoint (not the T4 need for structure) should be your starting point. That will be a much more natural and meaningful approach for you that doesn’t push you into T4 territory (which you can’t sustain!).
I would also suggest checking out flylady.com, which promotes an approach to housekeeping that is very T1 friendly.
January 5th, 2011 at 11:43 am
Dear @Mandy, You inconsistency is your consistency! You have to create structure within your Type 1 nature, not abandon your Type 1 nature to a world of structure. I agree with Rachel, thanks Rachel! Flylady.com is a Type 1 and all her material is designed to help women with this movement. Also I recommend you start using slow cookers for dinner, get your dinner in the slow cooker in the morning and voila, it will be already done at dinner time. I recommend Stephanie O’Dea’s “Make it Fast, Cook it Slow.” She is also a Type 1 and her ideas for using crockpots are right on for you. She has a great blog aslo, http://crockpot365.blogspot.com/ And, my number #1 tip for Type 1′s for domestic success is higher a house cleaner, even a teenage Type 4 that wants to earn money can do a really good job. It does not cost that much.
January 6th, 2011 at 9:32 am
Carol, I’ve read both “It’s Just My Nature” and “Dressing Your Truth.” I love the concepts in the books. I just want to thank you for this vlog. My husband is type 1, and I’m type 4. When I do fall short, I tend to come out with a complete confession, owning up completely. My hubby, on the other hand, does exactly what you said; he comes up with a story to give himself wiggle room. It’s been helpful to know that he’s not intentionally being deceitful, he’s just being random. Thank you for your work in this field. It really can be life changing for the better.
January 10th, 2011 at 7:20 am
So, T1 people do tend to “tell stories” more than others. This is something I noticed, and while the T1 people in my life were driving me bonkers with stories, since learning about DYT and the different types, I’ve been able to let this go a bit.
I believe my husband is a T1, and one of the most difficult things for me to handle is his changeability of opinions. We can discuss, and come to an agreement on something, only for him to change his mind a few days later. Or my favorite, while in a group setting, he switches opinions to match the group, even if it contradicts what we’ve come to agree on as a couple. Do you have any tips on how to handle this? I know now that he is not doing this because he’s wishy washy, and I finally realize he does mean what he says (when he says it).
I am a T2 strong secondary 4.
January 10th, 2011 at 3:25 pm
I think he may not be listening to what is actually being SAID, but going with a feeling. I see this a lot with the Type 1′s in my life and they tend to skim emails and messages, too, and have to be walked through it again to really SEE it. Once they’re aware of their Energy Profile and the many positives to being a Type 1 and what to be aware of, as the video above talks about, they improve greatly, but they need to want to bless their relationships and not blow it off.
January 10th, 2011 at 9:28 am
I have to remind my Type 1 friends to please answer my questions in emails or messages and to not use it as a springboard for what’s flitting through their mind at the moment. I want to hear their thoughts, but need to be heard, too.
A type 1 I know things that the rudeness mentioned above is more a Type 3 trait than a type 1, and my type 3/1 sister is one of the worst on the above. We’re thinking innate personality (selfishness) and culture is a large part of this behavior but Type 3′s AND 1′s are most prone to it.
What’s your thought on that?
Oh, and I just tell my T1 friends to please answer my efforts to reach out first and then I’ll answer their questions. I’ve had to give up on my 3/1 sister and just don’t bother sharing with her anymore as it’s just a godawful hassle and I’ve only so much energy to waste.
Thanks!
Pamela (3/4)
January 11th, 2011 at 10:07 am
Helloooo????
January 12th, 2011 at 12:28 am
Thanks for the great reminders in the video. As a T 1/2 married to a T 4/1, I get called on my stories by him frequently! Through this experience I’ve implemented what you recommend above, and learning to be that honest has benefitted all of my relationships. Certainly the LYT info dispelled a lot of static in our marriage. Understanding and accepting our natural energy has been a huge gift for us. Thank you!
Another aspect is unpacking all of the stories I’ve told myself over the years! I have so much more clarity and peace since I’ve been letting them go and can take much better care of myself. I’ve also found peace in letting go of the possibilities sometimes, letting an idea be good enough.
Re: changing ideas before a deadline, this is a very good point for us T 1′s to remind ourselves during a process. I’ve learned to check in w/other people involved, and again, myself as well. I’ve spent many a night without sleep so I could change something at the last minute to “make it better” or “finish it perfectly”. Becoming more mindful of my commitments has helped me to make better choices for myself.
The last two years have been intense in terms of self-development and growth, and energy profiling has been a great part of that.
Also love the slow cooker web site!! Thank you! Already printed out a recipe to make. I’ve been looking for a slow cooker recipe book for a while now. The ones I’ve borrowed from friends haven’t cut the mustard. I’d like to use it more. Smoothies are also great for T 1′s.
January 2nd, 2012 at 1:33 pm
I have been assessed as a type 1, with a secondary type, which of course I forget. BUT…I ordered some type 1 jewelry from the Dressing your truth site, and I HATE them. they just don’t feel like me! I hate bangly and clinky jewelry. I have collected silver and semiprecious earrings all my life. I did resonate with no “heavy” jewelry, I had noticed that when I FINALLY acquired a dream necklace (an antique Navajo “squash blossom” necklace) last year, I haven’t been able to wear it at all! (very heavy!!) I feel so badly about that, as it was very expensive!! BUT I just don’t know what to do about the jewelry thing. I feel very distressed. When I wear my silver bee earrings with turquoise beads in them, or my intricate silver earrings with coral, handmade from Siena, Italy, I feel marvelous. Also, I have worn a lot of black…uh oh. To many many compliments! Black with white pattern or other colors in it. Not sure what to do there. I understand to get deep navy or deep chocolate brown pants instead…have lots of chico’s outfits that go with the black travelers…yup. But feel very distressed about these items. Any help? I am going to have a consultation with my Dressing your truth coach, but wanted some feedback from Carol.
Thanks!
Barbara