Holidays and birthdays are special times! We get to share and show our appreciation with our loved ones and friends. Learn how to give the “perfect” gift by understanding more about the true nature of different Types of people. It makes getting the “perfect” gift easy and you will have so much fun giving it! What is your true nature? Learn in my book “It’s Just My Nature!” at http://myenergyprofile.com
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December 7th, 2010 at 8:14 am
Warning! My reply sounds kind of harsh, but there you go…
I love practical gifts: gift certificates to places I regularly shop, cash, good-quality musical instruments that I would play, or even “Acts of Service” gifts like doing the laundry, dishes, cleaning the bathroom. Just a personal card saying something specific about what they like about me is enough.
What I hate getting: Any article of clothing that I haven’t picked out myself, “froo-froo” stuff or anything that has to be displayed (creating clutter), sits on a shelf and gathers dust, leaves any kind of mess that I have to clean up (that includes candles – they deposit carbon on the walls and carpets, ugh), or anything that is given because someone thinks they HAVE to give me something. I always think, “Why did they waste their money on this? I won’t use it and will either throw it away or give it away. They could’ve used their money to bless the life of someone truly in NEED.”
December 13th, 2010 at 11:38 pm
I have to agree 100% with Marsha. As a type 3 I don’t like “froo-froo”. I’m also the world’s worse gift giver. I usually give practical gifts (that’s just what comes to mind first) and sometimes it comes across as not being very personal or thoughtful.
December 14th, 2010 at 11:49 am
Linda:
I also tend to give practical gifts for friends and extended family members. For example, I learned to make my own top-quality cold-process soap to use myself and give as gifts (very practical, but luxurious AND fun all at the same time). I can personalize the bars for the person or family (1 sister likes citrus, 1 sister likes spicy, 1 sister likes oatmeal, 1 sister likes uber-lathery, etc.)
December 7th, 2010 at 8:21 am
If you hadn’t guessed before, I am a Type 3.
December 7th, 2010 at 2:22 pm
@Marsha- Wow, I totally get where you are coming from! I don’t like cluttery gifts either. I’m not a type 3, but I guess I have enough of that in me that I don’t like that.
My husband says he is a type 3 but he most enjoys receiving toys and things he can have fun with. Or if I got him something computer related, that might go over well too.
December 9th, 2010 at 8:19 am
Marsha, that is so funny…I do and have done the same thing as far as gifts in the attitude of “WHY did you spend money on THIS for ME?” I’ve gone so far as to tell family that I just don’t need anything, save your money.
This also brings to memory, as a child, the Grant’s Store (similar to Wal-Mart) back in the day, used to have coloring contests. The winning child received a gift. I won it two years in a row if I remember correctly and the gift was the same doll both years. I was SOOOOO upset/disappointed when we went to collect my prize and of course, I was “shamed” (or felt that way) for my lack of gratitude. I guess in my mind as a 4 yr. old, I already HAD one, what did I need a second one for?
Also, even w/my secondary 1, I am not very good at hiding disappointment in ANYTHING in life.
My face/expression says it all, unfortunately.
December 13th, 2010 at 9:17 am
I’m not a type 3, but I do have some of those tendencies. The joke around our house is: “Shelves are more valuable than diamonds.” I love it when my husband builds me more shelves.
December 13th, 2010 at 10:13 am
My husband is a Type 3 and this is head on with what he says. For me he is one of the hardest people to buy for. He always has to have one toy, and then anything that is physical like a class through our parks and rec. for basketball. One year (I am a T4)I thought I would get this book for him I just knew he would love. I had found it in another state, had someone go get it for me and ship it to me. On Christmas I was so excited for him to open it, but when he did he was so disappointed and he told me it ruined his Christmas because it wasn’t a toy. Wow, I have tried ever since to get him a toy and no more of what I think is the perfect gift.
December 13th, 2010 at 12:21 pm
I’m a type 3 & love to receive expensive french perfume, which I use daily. When my daughter was very little I would take her to a department store, show the assistant every scent I loved, leave her to help my daughter choose one. They knew I was a single mother & were happy to make my daughter feel very special testing all the scents & choosing the one she liked for me. The assistant would then wrap it, I would return and pay for it, and I would get a great surprise on Christmas morning. French perfume seemed far to luxurious for me to buy myself, but to me french perfume is a very valuable gift because it helps my mood every day when I put it on, and actually it is great value for money when you think of how long it lasts and the effect it has. Isn’t that a typically type 3 statement!! Of course if I received a fragrance I hated, it would not lift my mood so I would never wear it which would be a total waste, but the staff at the department store were great with us. Now my (type 4) daughter is nearly 16, and last year was the first time I gave her some french perfume for her birthday, and she was equally as delighted.
December 13th, 2010 at 1:02 pm
Oh wow, can I relate! I am a T3/4. I cannot fake it, though I try. Everyone sees right through it. I don’t want anyone to feel badly. A card, note of appreciation, an “experience” gift, or just “spending quality time with me, personally, is enough.
I do love practical gifts. I’m not much on “froo-froo” either. My combo Christmas gift, ahead-of-time was the DYT course from my DH, at my request. I LOVE it! Best thing he could have gotten me.
And, I won’t mind it there isn’t anything to open on Christmas day, b/c I’m still enjoying my gift. The best part of the holidays for me, is giving and enjoying my family around me.
I am not hard to please, really. I like simple things. By they way, “I” do like candles, but my practical side likes to save them for special occasions, or company coming over. I am learning to use them more often. I like “smelly-good” things.
One of my daughters is also a Type 3–who LOVES candles and always has one burning–really enjoys getting experience gifts: tickets to a movie, coffee house, or the spa.
December 13th, 2010 at 6:41 pm
I am a type 3/4. The gifts I remember as a teen/early 20s (I’m a lot older now – in chronological years but not in spirit!) were “event” gifts – a number of lessons with the national squash coach; an afternoon at a beauty parlor (I thought I looked like a clown so heavily made up); but the point is those are the gifts I recall.
I receive clothing gifts from some relatives particularly a Type 2 relative that are full of ruffles in soft muted colors – would look stunning on her, but I’ve never been a ruffles/bow/pockets kind of person so…I really do have to fake my gratitude. My Type 4/3 son says I don’t fake too well!
Now my kids are older teens they choose all their gifts themselves – sad for the surprise factor – but I suppose highlights my practical type 3-ness!
December 14th, 2010 at 11:28 am
Ha, ha, it is so funny how many people are saying please nothing “froo froo”. Just a couple weeks ago my husband asked me what I wanted for Christmas and one thing was a new blow dryer but I told him pleeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaseeeeeee no “froofy girly” colors!
Several people have mentioned that their spouse wants a fun gift and I also feel this way. I am a 3 with secondary 1 and I do want something practical, but to me practical means that I will use it and like it. Impractical means something that will sit in the closet collecting dust. Toys and fun gifts can be very practical if you use them a lot for fun and recreation. I play as hard as I work and I feel let down if I only get “needed” items.
I like it when someone understands what I like enough to buy me something that I would love and want but would not buy for myself because it I don’t need it. If you don’t know what to get, do not just buy “something” out of desperation because it may end up on the charity truck going to someone who will actually use it.
December 15th, 2010 at 8:41 am
This is right on! I laugh inside when I’m hearing out loud someone describing me in a way I have only experienced since I have discovered my truth.
Well my birthday is tomorrow and I told my husband I need clothes and would love for him to take me shopping for my birthday. The one problem with that is I don’t actually know where the clothes I want are right now and I want to just get it handled. So I’m considering changing the plans since there are some accessories I need and would love to have and I already know where they are.
For Christmas, birthday’s, anniversaries, Valentines Day and Mother’s Day he just has me give him a list of the things I want and that’s what I get. It’s nice because I know that I am picking exactly what I would love to get. Sometimes I get a surprise but its something I have said I wanted out loud and he paid attention.
December 17th, 2010 at 12:03 pm
When I listened to this, I couldn’t help but think of my roommate (who is a Type 3)! I was trying to figure out what to get her for Christmas and she just told me, “Kelli…I need a new purse.” I wanted to get her something fun, like scarves or jewelry, but the ever practical type 3 side of her wanted a purse!
For my present, she gave me a jewelry holder so that I can (in her words) “Stop leaving your necklaces and rings all over the dresser!”
(I’m a Type 1)