What to Wear When the Dress Code is Black

I received a great question from one of our Dressing Your Truth club members: What about funerals?

If you’re Dressing Your Truth and you’re a Type 1, 2, or 3, you avoid black clothes completely. Do you wear black to a funeral anyway? Don’t you?

This question extends beyond funerals. Your work uniform may be black. Or you need a certain dress code at a concert or special event.

Anne and I have some ideas of what you can do.

Watch the video to hear some alternatives and tips to keep you from looking silly, washed out, or old.

Thanks for watching. What did we miss? What would you add? What have you done when you had to wear black? Share your suggestions and thoughts in a comment below.

Like I said, this question came from the Dressing Your Truth Facebook page. If you haven’t joined our conversation on Facebook already, you can join in now by clicking here:

With all your style choices (black or not), remember that color is only one of the 5 elements of Dressing Your Truth.

The other 4 elements of your personal style are just as important!

Refer to the back of your Style Guide for reminders of how to create a style that completely honors your true beauty.

And if you haven’t started Dressing Your Truth yet, the first step is easy. Discover your Type of beauty with my free online Beauty Profiling course.

Carol Tuttle

Carol Tuttle is a teacher, speaker, healer, and best-selling author of five books. She has dedicated her life to helping people worldwide create the lives and relationships they desire. She blogs to support you in creating your ideal life.

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  • Christiana

    I actually went to an Italian funeral last year and the color to wear is definitely black. I did try to wear black (I’m a T3), but just couldn’t, couldn’t. I opted for a dressy brown top and skirt and it was perfect! I was dressed respectfully; kept it from being about me; and avoided squirming from not feeling good in clothes that don’t work for me. Needless to say, that last piece of black in my closet is now gone!

  • Rabbi Wendy

    For funerals, I wear a rich dark brown or olive green. I haven’t heard a negative comment about this. I purged my wardrobe of black 2 years ago and don’t regret it for a minute. For weddings, I have some shutter-pleat dresses by designer Adrianna Papell (available at Nordstrom) – one each in teal, wine, and dark purple. I always received compliments, and the dresses are very comfortable.

  • Ciel

    I attended a funeral just last week (my father’s). I noticed that hardly anyone wore black for which I was grateful because my father did not want his funeral to be a somber occasion. As a T2 I wore a soft brown skirt with a cream lace overblouse (over a lavender under tee) with dark lavender flower pinned to the blouse. The reason I chose this is because my father bought me the blouse as a gift 3 weeks before. Since I spoke at the funeral, I used the story of Dad buying the blouse as part of my talk.
    Anymore black makes me feel “dead” and I am very much alive!

  • b.

    As you mention towards the end of this video, it’s not just about color. I work in theatre and often do have to wear black, despite being a type 2 with a strong subtype 1. I find that although black isn’t my most flattering color, I can find black clothes that I feel pretty comfortable in as long as I pay attention to the other four elements–I get very flowy, soft fabrics, I wear shoes with round or oval toes, etc. It’s not 100% DYT, but as a type 2 I wouldn’t feel comfortable being the only one out of place anyway!–this compromise works for me.

    And then, of course, I wear what I like when I’m not in “uniform” backstage. 🙂

  • Alita

    I like the options suggested in the video and the comments for funeral wear for all the types.

    In court services, which I now work in, the clerks who are actually in court (I’m in the office rather than court) have to wear black and stark white uniforms and I muse about this as I notice who is what type! There’s not a lot of room for accessorizing there either as you can well imagine! I also muse about the potential for those in this profession having, when not a primary (though lots do), a secondary T4 energy. Who else would be drawn to this particular work and environment?!

    Actually, on the topic of finding alternatives to black, I have always loved to wear black, and black and white, and this was seen as a negative in my last line of work in a holistically oriented chiropractic office (and I didn’t really learn about DYT until after I had left that line of work) but energy profiling is, and would have been for us there had I known about it then, a fantastic resource.

  • Sandy

    I play in lots of concerts where the dress code is black. On the one hand it is kind of neat to see the animation and movement of the orchestra contrasting the stillness of the clothes.
    Even before I knew about dressing your truth and that I was a type 1I had already learned a trick-I wear a floor length black skirt and then have really fun socks underneath. My shoes and dress cover them so no one sees unless I show them, but I still know it is there and fun.

  • Su

    I am a Type 1/4…..I will wear dark brown pants and dress shoes or boots, depending on the season….I live in Canada…then add my bright green blazer with another coloured top and a dark brown scarf and gold jewelry, of course. The colours are solid to give it more of the classy look. I kind of figure that no one really goes by black is for morning anymore….cause everyone would be morning ALL the time…..soooo many people wear black all the time because it is easy and society has said it is the classy go to colour. Thank you DYT for bringing colour back into some of our worlds!! 🙂

  • Sisse

    I should have read this segment first. Instead, I posted twice about what to do when forced to wear black. 🙂 It has been more than a few years of wearing nothing but, head to toe, as a hair stylist. Kind of ironic, don’t you think? We are supposed to be artistic and making everyone look and feel their best. Yet, a majority of us are certainly not type 4. It is time for this outdated idea to change. How do we get the type 4 business owners to see the light? (This last is tongue-in-cheek, of course.)