In this series Carol shares the most common tendencies that keep the 4 different Types of people stuck in a pattern of self-sabotage! Type 4’s have a gift for offering timely critiques to help improve the quality of our lives, but when their gift is unknown them it can easily turn into undue criticism. What is your true nature? Find out now at http://www.myenergyprofile.com
January 29th, 2010 at 6:06 pm
Carol, Thank you!
I have been trying to cover up and soften who I am for years. I am a type 4 and wasn’t even sure after I took energy profiling. I was back and forth between 4 and 2. When I concluded I was a 4 I took dressing your truth. I am finally getting comfortable with myself. I was always told my look was to harsh, I was blunt and etc.
The self criticism is dead on, but to stop and get on with things are a little more challenging. I’m working on it though.
Thanks again
Bernita
January 31st, 2010 at 3:32 pm
As an observant Type 4, I am constantly on the look out for healthy models of Type 4 women living their truth and/or dressing their truth. Carol, do you have any women examples you might share with us? I am very blunt too, Bernita. I’d like to see how that can be expressed in a healthy way. Maybe it will just develop naturally as I keep dressing my truth.
We talk about Type 4’s being the women that predominate in the fashion world for their facial symmetry and excellent posture, but I think it’s important to add that they are usually tall, skinny Type 4s. I wonder if a lot of the short and “square-body” Type 4’s out there are very critical of themselves because they don’t find images of themselves that are approved of by the fashion world.
Just some thoughts. I will return to the book and keep learning.
Thanks, Carol, for all you do!
Allison
February 1st, 2010 at 12:00 pm
Thank you Carol for your observations and for sharing some of your knowledge with us.
Appreciate your comments on the outward critical look moving into criticizing the ‘out there’ world and its impact on the personal world. However, for myself, I find that the inward critical look moving into self criticism and self blame wrapped up in “if I could just be better at…., I should do…. and other such etc’s.” is the more difficult aspect to deal with. It often lands me in overwhelm mode and escapism. My best solutions thus far have been long quiet walks or drives, listening to the quiet lap of water and rustle of leaves or sitting still with pen and paper trying to find my center and my balance.
Thanks again,
Bicki
February 1st, 2010 at 2:53 pm
Bicki,
You are right! Your solutions work for me too. In addition to needing alone time and quiet time to center and balance, I find it very very helpful to officially give authority to others. I’ve learned that I’m not a multi-tasker. That is a gift I freely give to my type 3 husband and son. They LOVE it! And, I don’t need to feel overwhelmed trying to get everything done at once. I focus and am most successful when I work on 1 to 4 things. That is all. Then I can do them to the best that I want. This is perfect for me because I’m all or nothing and I can tackle the 1 to 4 things I want and let everything else go. Along these lines is when I specifically gave my DYT authority completely to Carol! WOW! That was liberating. I also have deliberately given a tremendous amount of authority to my husband. An area that we all needed to balance out. I have only a few things to worry about and perfect, and he gets to use his power to blaze our family forward. And I don’t have to try to do it all. Ironically, giving authority to others actually helps me live my truth better than ever before.
February 1st, 2010 at 4:28 pm
Carol,
I was perusing your blog and HAVE to comment about your post dealing with children being mislabeled as “shy”. This is by far, hands down, the biggest pet peeve I have! I always have people say to Will, “Oh, are you just being SHY?” like it’s some sort of cutesy thing when it is just pure nonsense! It drives me so crazy that they are putting that into his head (especially when he really isn’t shy at all, usually he has just woken up for a nap and is groggy or something of that nature), but true to my type 2-ness I bite my tongue at saying anything because I don’t want to offend. I have tried to find a subtle and kind way to correct them, and I usually say, “He’s just tired.” Thanks for the post and I may just have to forward it out to all the people in my life who insist on calling my child “shy”
Dawn
February 8th, 2010 at 9:19 am
Thanks Carol, for your insight on Energy Types. My wife and I bought your Energy Profiling course, but up till recently, I’ve had a hard time seeing the “real me”. This video really helped me put “me” in perspective. It’s like we were talking specifically about my habits and actions. I don’t multi-task well, but I sure can focus! And the info on slef-criticism was right on the mark … WOW! Perhaps my difficulty in determining my Type has been in letting someone else tell me who I am. As a man, I find myself somewhat of a minority in exploring your work . At least, very few men seem to comment on your posts. Do you address LYT for men? That would be interesting to me.
Thanks again for your work. My next challenge is to apply it more in my life … particularly in changing my mindset from “criticism” to “critiquing”.
February 8th, 2010 at 9:40 am
Thanks for your comment Stuart! Yes, women tend to lead the way when it comes to living our truth! But, all my Energy Profiling work applies to both genders. If you have not yet read my book, “It’s Just My Nature!” this is a a lot more to learn about yourself and the other Types in the book, I highly recommend it.
February 11th, 2010 at 2:16 pm
Great video, lots to think about. So often as a child I was called shy and told I needed to let loose and have fun more often. I remember thinking to myself…I’m having fun, what’s their problem? They don’t know me. Who do they think they are telling me to let loose they are being to obnoxious. Oh, it is so funny to think about now as an adult. I can really see where my type 4 personality came out as a child. That is great.
These days I am told even by my husband that people have a hard time approaching me and that maybe I am a snob or something which is far from true. I love for people to talk to me I just don’t go running up to everyone to make all strangers my buddy. So, it has caused some hurt feelings for me in the past to think others think I am a snob.
I am so glad that I can hopefully spare my children from such labels. Thank you Carol.
February 28th, 2010 at 1:30 pm
Thank you for the video. All my life I had people putting me down because I have an natural insight on things. This happened everywhere at work is the worst because when you can come up with better ideas and insights than your boss boy fireworks start. People are very envious and hurtful and can’t understand where you are coming from. It’s not my fault they’re not self-assure and can’t see the trees from the forest. I by nature try not to be blunt but sometimes is so black and white why people can’t see what they’re doing? I am very clear and true to myself and dislike fake people and boy if you do the walk for God sake do the WALK. That’s so not right go up there and portray what you’re not. Thank you for the insight and I will continue to be ME in spite what others think. I do not go out of my way to hurt anybody but sometimes I feel people think they have the right to hurt me and i am in a point in my life. I am not going to let them I am who I am and they are who they are and that’s that. Thank you and God bless