Many people grow up with labels like shy, rebellious, hyperactive, etc! None of these labels honor us, they confine and suggest we are not enough and we need to fix something. If you have been called shy, you get be set free from this limitation. In this video Carol will not only help you be free of your limiting labels but will also help you not label and restrict your children. What negative labels are you being set free of in your life? Share negative labels you have experienced in your life in the comments below. Learn your true nature now!
5 Responses to “Mislabeling our kids: How to help your ’shy’ children…don’t call them ’shy’!”
Leave a Reply
Connect With Me
Dressing Your Truth Makeover Contest Winner
ASK CAROL
January 11th, 2010 at 7:53 am
Thanks Carol for this post. I was one of those type 2 children that was labeled shy, and then I created shyness in a big way for most of my life. As an example, when I was first going to kindergarten, I remember holding back, not sure if I wanted to go, so, I was called shy. Once I assessed the situation, saw the classroom, I was ready to go. I had lots of friends and wasn’t afraid of talking to the other kids at school. By the time I was in 3rd grade, I was afraid to talk to other kids, and the shyness grew from there. I have been beating myself up for nearly 40 years. Now, thanks to energy profiling, I have accepted that I move through life with a quiet subdued nature, it is my gift, where I once thought it to be a curse.
January 11th, 2010 at 9:01 am
Great message Carol! My DH is a type 2, I am a type 4 and you described us to a “T”. I don’t do parties and it’s OK.
One question – what do you say to people about your kids when they act like they would rather melt into the floor than make eye contact with people. I have 2 children that do that, and unfortunately it gets people’s attention. They want to know what’s wrong – and then they get in my child’s face, try to be playful and usually set off a tantrum. How do get people to back off without saying “she’s shy” People understand the term shy. I have never used it with the intention of it being a negative label, though, so that is food for thought.
-Vicki
January 11th, 2010 at 3:09 pm
GREAT video! Your book, ‘It’s Just My Nature!’, should be required reading for all parents, teachers .. everyone actually! I can always SO identify with all your type 4 insights! Everything Type 4 always feels like it’s directed right to me! Oh, and even worse than the “shy” label is being labeled BACKWARD! Ugggh … there’s no mistaking the message there! — “you need to be fixed”! I’m glad I was always my own authority on everything, though, including my personality! I was right — they were wrong! : D
January 12th, 2010 at 5:24 pm
Thanks for posting this blog! I don’t remember my parents ever calling me shy, but many others did. And it is a word that I hate! When somebody says that to me, I usually wonder what’s so great about being the one that talks so much. And, if the person would just spend a couple of minutes talking with me instead of to me, they would find out that I am not shy. Thanks again!
January 18th, 2010 at 9:52 am
Wow, I was always labeled as shy and hated it. I took it as an insult and it sometimes was meant as one. I have recently been labeled as hard to approach. I am a more reserved person and tend to (after being labeled myself) label others as loud and obnoxious because they think everyone should act the way they do. Makes me feel like less of a person, weird, not normal. I like to like people for who they are and accept the fact that we are all different.
I will have to budget in this energy course thing next month. I don’t want my children to have such labels. I have told my husband in the past, It is ok if our kids don’t want to do ______ fill in the blank. They can be shy if they want to. I see shyness in women more as a good thing I suppose. Meekness is something I hold in higher regard as a Christian.
Thanks for listening to me rant! LOL