Do you want to communicate better? It may be simpler than you think.
Your natural movement shows up in your thoughts. And thoughts come before words. So, if you want to communicate better with others, you need to understand your own thought process—and theirs. The very nature of your thoughts could be different.
Today, we talk about the thought process of the Type 3, active, reactive person—the third of 4 Types in my Energy Profiling system.
Have you ever tried to get a Type 3′s attention and couldn’t? Or are you a Type 3 who wonders why people interrupt when you’re trying to get something done? Find out what’s going on in that Type 3 brain and get some tips on how to communicate better:
What do you think? How will this help you communicate as a Type 3? How does this help you understand an active, reactive, swift person in your life? I would love to hear your comments.
Remember, the Type 3′s natural thought process is not a weakness, just a tendency. You can use your natural tendencies as a strength when you achieve more harmony between your inner realm and your outer expression, no matter which Type you are.
Communicate better just by knowing who you are.
Your thought process is 1 of 5 assessments I use in my Energy Profiling system to help you discover your true nature and align with your natural gifts and talents. Discover more patterns to easily optimize successful outcomes in your life with all the information in my Energy Profiling Bundle. Change your life for the better by purchasing it for yourself or a friend at myenergyprofile.com.
And be sure to catch next week’s video to better communicate by understanding a Type 4′s constant, still thought process.
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June 21st, 2011 at 6:39 am
I really relate to this video because as a type 3 mom, trying to get things done, honoring my family members and honoring myself is VERY much a tug of war. it’s really hard to try and be nice through it all at times, which is not what you have in your heart for that person that’s needing your attention. i liked the emphasis on teaching not just yourself but your family members how to best gain your attenion. It’s a 2 way street.
June 21st, 2011 at 6:43 am
Loving this! Just yesterday I reread the T2 and T3 sections in “It’s Just My Nature” so I could better understand some people I love. It’s really helpful to see this in tandem. Now I’m going to go watch the T2 vlog!
Thanks, Anne and Carol!
June 21st, 2011 at 3:23 pm
My type 3 mom growing up was more interested in taking apart the turkey and getting it put away in serving sizes and freezing it at and during family get-togethers than visiting with family that came from far and away.
As a family we could never figure out why getting things done were more important to her then we were. Any ways I understand her movement better now but as a type 3 myself have beeen more careful and conscious to not to put off family and friends by being more concerned with projects than with them.
June 21st, 2011 at 7:10 pm
I am Type 1, but I express this T3 tendency to get right to the point without acknowledging the person I am speaking with. In my mind, the task comes first. I have been practicing putting the person first; I still have a lot more practice to go.
I’ve noticed when I write emails to people I am working with, I write in the style of my tendency (task first, pleasantries last), but I have been now taking the time to arrange the order of my sentences and paragraphs before hitting “Send”, so there is the human aspect in the first sentence and in the last.
Another thing I have gotten a lot better in is when I express my opinion aloud, I make sure to include the vocal disclaimer, “I am just stating my opinion; I am not saying this is the end-all be-all.” This has helped TREMENDOUSLY in communicating with my T2 husband. We have had more open communication since I started doing that.
June 22nd, 2011 at 3:59 pm
Yes, this is definitely true for me. In response to the other comments, I like to respond directly to what the person is saying, instead of immediately giving my reaction to them. Doing this has taken practice though. Sometimes I still mess up, and then I am reminded to acknowledge what they’ve said and give my follow up response. One thing that really bothers me is when someone is being fickle- like pretending to be nice or happy or just anything that clearly contradicts what is really going on inside of them. When they do this, I immediately trust them less and respect them less. Not that I was trying, it’s just a natural process. If someone can’t be honest with me, they haven’t gained my respect/trust.
June 22nd, 2011 at 4:19 pm
Over the years, my type 1 husband has come to realize that just because I say something with passion and sureness, it doesn’t mean that’s the end of the discussion on something or that my mind is closed to other options.
In fact, I find it fits very well with type 3 movement to make abrupt changes in directions. For instance, I can move quite quickly from feeling strongly or thinking one way about something and then when more information or insight comes along, to shift to what might seem like the opposite direction or even a whole different one that wasn’t even within the realm of consideration before. Actually this ability is one of the things I love about being a type 3!
June 27th, 2011 at 9:59 pm
Very good video and hopefully, other types watching it will realize that they need to express themselves and not withdraw; there is a huge difference between passion and anger or passion and arrogance.
July 5th, 2011 at 8:13 am
I am a type 3 wife and mother. My husband is a type 1 and I have a type 1 step-daughter, type 1,2 & 4 daughter’s. I watched this whole video series and it has shed so much light on thought processes and communication styles of all the types and in my home it is greatly needed. I learned so much! I will also be sitting my family down to watch this series so that we can all better understand ourselves and the other types’ thought process and communication styles in our home so that we can communicate more effectively and harmoniously. I am grateful for this series, thank you Carol and Anne!!!
July 11th, 2011 at 5:00 pm
This video was really helpful in understanding my communication with my twin sister. We are both Type 3, but she leads with a very masculine energy and can come across quite bossy. I lead with my secondary 2 nature and she can run right over me. It helped me understand why we can be on the phone and only half listening to each other as we both multitask to finish our lists. I see now that we aren’t being distant, we are just being true to our Type 3 nature. This series on communication has been invaluable for my interactions with my Type 1 son and her interactions with her Type 4 husband. I wish I had known this information at the start of my marriage. Thanks, Carol!
September 8th, 2011 at 8:23 am
I loved the comments about how others feel when type 3′s state their opinions! I stopped voicing my opinion over time because every time I did I offended someone I loved. I kept getting feedback that I was “always arguing” or that I “never let others have an opinion.” On my side it felt like I was the one never allowed an opinion because everyone was constantly offended if I did! So frustrating! I am trying to learn how to acknowledge other’s opinions before I jump into my own. And when others still get offended, instead of thinking that they are trying to cage me or that I am flawed in some way, I try to turn it around and accept that I am powerful. Then I recommit to better learn how to use that power.
October 7th, 2011 at 9:12 am
Amber, that is exactly how it is for me too!! I’m really enjoying the journey of learning who I am, who others are, how they see me and how I can stand in my power while honoring THEIRS