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Active Communication: What Is That Type 3 Thinking?

If you know a few simple tricks, you’ll be able to better communicate with anyone you know.

Type 3 Communication Strengths and Challenges

Today, we talk about the thought process of the Type 3, active, reactive person—the third of 4 Types in my Energy Profiling system.

Swift, dynamic Type 3′s move through communication just like they move through everything in life: swiftly. If you’ve ever tried to get a Type 3′s attention and then couldn’t, there’s something you need to know about them. And if you’ve ever felt frustrated as a Type 3 about being interrupted from what you’re doing to talk about something, you’ll appreciate the practical tips in this video

Find out what’s going on in that Type 3 brain and get some tips on how to communicate better:

How will this help you communicate as a Type 3? How does this help you understand an active, reactive, swift person in your life? I would love to hear your comments.

Get rid of the labels and be your best self

Like we mentioned in the video, a Type 3′s swift, sure communication style can be judged as a weakness in certain situations. Embrace your natural tendencies and manage them, rather than trying to get rid of them.

You can use your natural tendencies as a strength when you  achieve more harmony between your inner realm and your outer expression, no matter which Type you are. Communicate better just by knowing who you are.

More communication support

If you haven’t learned your Type yet, do it today—it’s easy and it’s free. Sign up for my free online course to discover your Type at myenergyprofiling.com.

The next video in the series: Clearer Communication With a Type 4


Carol Tuttle

Carol Tuttle is a teacher, speaker, healer, and best-selling author of five books. She has dedicated her life to helping people worldwide create the lives and relationships they desire. She blogs to support you in creating your ideal life.


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  • carrie Spencer

    I really relate to this video because as a type 3 mom, trying to get things done, honoring my family members and honoring myself is VERY much a tug of war. it’s really hard to try and be nice through it all at times, which is not what you have in your heart for that person that’s needing your attention. i liked the emphasis on teaching not just yourself but your family members how to best gain your attenion. It’s a 2 way street.

  • http://slippiingthroughthecracks.blogspot.com/ Ruth

    Loving this! Just yesterday I reread the T2 and T3 sections in “It’s Just My Nature” so I could better understand some people I love. It’s really helpful to see this in tandem. Now I’m going to go watch the T2 vlog!

    Thanks, Anne and Carol!

  • louize

    My type 3 mom growing up was more interested in taking apart the turkey and getting it put away in serving sizes and freezing it at and during family get-togethers than visiting with family that came from far and away.
    As a family we could never figure out why getting things done were more important to her then we were. Any ways I understand her movement better now but as a type 3 myself have beeen more careful and conscious to not to put off family and friends by being more concerned with projects than with them.

  • Adhis

    I am Type 1, but I express this T3 tendency to get right to the point without acknowledging the person I am speaking with. In my mind, the task comes first. I have been practicing putting the person first; I still have a lot more practice to go. :wink:

    I’ve noticed when I write emails to people I am working with, I write in the style of my tendency (task first, pleasantries last), but I have been now taking the time to arrange the order of my sentences and paragraphs before hitting “Send”, so there is the human aspect in the first sentence and in the last.

    Another thing I have gotten a lot better in is when I express my opinion aloud, I make sure to include the vocal disclaimer, “I am just stating my opinion; I am not saying this is the end-all be-all.” This has helped TREMENDOUSLY in communicating with my T2 husband. We have had more open communication since I started doing that.

  • http://TrueTrish.blogspot.com Trish

    Yes, this is definitely true for me. In response to the other comments, I like to respond directly to what the person is saying, instead of immediately giving my reaction to them. Doing this has taken practice though. Sometimes I still mess up, and then I am reminded to acknowledge what they’ve said and give my follow up response. One thing that really bothers me is when someone is being fickle- like pretending to be nice or happy or just anything that clearly contradicts what is really going on inside of them. When they do this, I immediately trust them less and respect them less. Not that I was trying, it’s just a natural process. If someone can’t be honest with me, they haven’t gained my respect/trust.

  • Julia Ahlers Ness

    Over the years, my type 1 husband has come to realize that just because I say something with passion and sureness, it doesn’t mean that’s the end of the discussion on something or that my mind is closed to other options.

    In fact, I find it fits very well with type 3 movement to make abrupt changes in directions. For instance, I can move quite quickly from feeling strongly or thinking one way about something and then when more information or insight comes along, to shift to what might seem like the opposite direction or even a whole different one that wasn’t even within the realm of consideration before. Actually this ability is one of the things I love about being a type 3!

  • Pamela

    Very good video and hopefully, other types watching it will realize that they need to express themselves and not withdraw; there is a huge difference between passion and anger or passion and arrogance.

  • Andrea

    I am a type 3 wife and mother. My husband is a type 1 and I have a type 1 step-daughter, type 1,2 & 4 daughter’s. I watched this whole video series and it has shed so much light on thought processes and communication styles of all the types and in my home it is greatly needed. I learned so much! I will also be sitting my family down to watch this series so that we can all better understand ourselves and the other types’ thought process and communication styles in our home so that we can communicate more effectively and harmoniously. I am grateful for this series, thank you Carol and Anne!!!

  • Sue

    This video was really helpful in understanding my communication with my twin sister. We are both Type 3, but she leads with a very masculine energy and can come across quite bossy. I lead with my secondary 2 nature and she can run right over me. It helped me understand why we can be on the phone and only half listening to each other as we both multitask to finish our lists. I see now that we aren’t being distant, we are just being true to our Type 3 nature. This series on communication has been invaluable for my interactions with my Type 1 son and her interactions with her Type 4 husband. I wish I had known this information at the start of my marriage. Thanks, Carol!

  • Amber

    I loved the comments about how others feel when type 3′s state their opinions! I stopped voicing my opinion over time because every time I did I offended someone I loved. I kept getting feedback that I was “always arguing” or that I “never let others have an opinion.” On my side it felt like I was the one never allowed an opinion because everyone was constantly offended if I did! So frustrating! I am trying to learn how to acknowledge other’s opinions before I jump into my own. And when others still get offended, instead of thinking that they are trying to cage me or that I am flawed in some way, I try to turn it around and accept that I am powerful. Then I recommit to better learn how to use that power.

  • Sharon

    Amber, that is exactly how it is for me too!! I’m really enjoying the journey of learning who I am, who others are, how they see me and how I can stand in my power while honoring THEIRS ;-)

  • janet

    As a 3, I was too coldly honest in my comments when my children were growing up, and as young adults we had a period of estrangement. Now that they are adults, I find myself constantly biting my tongue so as not to offend and alienate them again. I was often told at work that I exerted more influence than I was aware of, and that I needed to be more sensitive to that – but I just didn’t believe it. I am working on being honest but kind, and it’s hard because it feels a little phony, or like I’m selling myself out – so mostly I still just bite my tongue. I’m still a work in progress.