Do you want to communicate better? It may be simpler than you think.
Your natural movement shows up in your thoughts. And thoughts come before words. So, if you want to communicate better with others, you need to understand your own thought process—and theirs. The very nature of your thoughts could be different.
In the last video of this 4-part series, I talk about the thought process of the Type 4, constant, still person—one of the 4 Types in my Energy Profiling system. If misunderstood, a Type 4′s thoughts can cause disharmony in life and relationships.
Watch the video and learn how a still, reflective person’s two potential challenges can actually be great strengths. Find out how to honor a deep-thinking Type 4 in your life. And learn some tips to better communicate, either as a Type 4 yourself or with a Type 4 you know:
What do you think? How will this help you communicate as a Type 4? How does this help you understand a constant, still person in your life? Remember, the Type 4′s natural thought process is not a weakness, just a tendency. Please share your positive comments.
I hope this series has helped you achieve more harmony between your inner realm and your outer expression, no matter which Type you are. If you missed any part of it, visit the other segments by clicking on the links (Type 1, Type 2, or Type 3) and communicate better with everyone you know.
These videos are just supplements to all the information you can find in my Energy Profiling System. Discover more patterns to help you better understand yourself and others with all the information in my Energy Profiling Bundle. Change your life for the better by purchasing it for yourself or a friend at myenergyprofile.com.
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June 28th, 2011 at 7:11 am
HI Carol! I have a Type 4 17-year-old son and this is invaluable to me, a Type 1. He’s the most honest, caring, respectful, thoughtful guy — unusual for 17 year old boys — and struggles with social relationships. Been hard to ‘talk’ to him about what’s going on inside but so want to support him as he finishes high school and off into college and the world.
Thanks!!
Monica
June 28th, 2011 at 8:01 am
My daughter is a type 4 (I am a 2) I catch us getting into this situation of going too deep quite often. Especially with energy profiling. She will start by asking a question like “what type do you think so and so is?” I will try and answer then it ends up with her saying “what about this and what about that?” I know when we start to get frustrated with each other I just tell her “I’m not the expert on this” and smile and she relaxes about it. I also know she has said she is frustrated with even learning about this just as you indicated.
That said, I love her so much I wouldn’t trade her fourness for anything.
June 28th, 2011 at 8:09 am
Thanks for this series ladies! Another great and insightful help.
As a T4, I agree with what you’ve said. A few years back, before I was introduced to energy profiling, I learned this lesson, to switch tracks when I became frustrated or too singly-focused on something–especially if I was emotionally overcharged. When I’m emotionally upset I can really overwhelm others. Now I’m laughing because I remember my teenage self over analyzing all the what-if’s and why-not’s of my social interactions. My poor parents! They did a great job trying to help me.
To my fellow T4′s, remember to honor those who hold an energy type different from your own. Let them move and be in their energy as you do the same in yours. And if something is bothering you and you struggle to let go, find a positive diversion, something that will allow you to channel your focus to create something satisfying and positive. I will often seek out a friend that I can help with a project or something. It really really helps. Thanks Carol and Anne!
June 28th, 2011 at 8:47 am
I am amazed at how accurately you described me — I already knew I was Type 4 after reading the book and doing the online course, but I am 99.9% certain now (I am never 100% certain about anything — don’t know if that’s a type 4 thing or some secondary type 2 creeping in). I most definitely over think and over analyze and have been virtually obsessed with Dressing Your Truth and Energy Profiling since I found out about it!! My Dad is also definitely at Type 4 — I always described him as a loving wonderful person, but one who is constantly critiquing everything — not in a negative way but in a “process improvement” way. He always let us know when something wasn’t right or good enough and had to really work on remembering to say when things were great as well as when they were bad! My step-Mom is definitely a Type 3. Her facial features are mostly Type 3 and I am amazed at the way she just gets things done. My Dad and I laugh about the fact that while he and I are analyzing the perfect way and time to do something — she’s already gone out and done it — sometimes in our opinion in a sloppy way — but it’s done! Type 4′s really need 3s to get them moving!
June 28th, 2011 at 10:41 am
I get frustrated thinking I must not be a very ‘good’ Type 4 because one of the characteristics of T4′s is that they are clear on what they want or what is right. I feel like I am constantly going around in circles with my unrelenting overthinking, and there’s no way I could ever have enough knowledge or foresight about any topic to pick the right answer. As for letting that go and using what feels right, I’m afraid to even allow myself to see what feels right for fear that I’ll pick the wrong thing. I guess this confirms more than ever that I am a T4 and that I need to release myself from the overthinking!
July 5th, 2011 at 11:02 am
Hi Katie,
I’m a T4 and think that just being aware of what we are doing can be helpful bc we can tell ourselves that we have the option of stopping overthinking. I think energy profiling can be so helpful to us bc it helps us to see what our natural tendencies are and then we can make changes if we want to.
Leisa
June 28th, 2011 at 11:59 am
The Type 4s in my life, my husband and my son, are the most focused people I know. They can zero in on a complicated task and complete it with almost perfection. I stand back in awe of them!
June 28th, 2011 at 12:04 pm
My husband who is a type 4/2 has lived most of his life as a type 2 because out of the need to do so. I see VERY often his perfecting, logical well thought out nature trying to come out. How do I help him to channel that into parts of his life that need attention? With out coming across as his mom?
June 28th, 2011 at 1:34 pm
My husband is a 1/4, but his secondary 4 is fairly strong. He likes to be intellectual at times, such as talks in church. And most people really seem to enjoy listening to his well thought out ways when they do come out. I also notice that he does need a productive outlet for his perfecting and intense ways. Right now his outlet is his garden and remodeling projects in our house. Without such outlets he is more difficult to be around, having energy without a good place to go. Learning about energy types and how they are expressed by myself and family members has helped my relationships immensely. I am so very thankful for this knowledge and am enjoying learning more and more all the time.
June 29th, 2011 at 5:28 am
Jolee, I had never thought of that before. When ever I have a project in my life to work on, I become deeply committed (almost to the point of not wanting to be interrupted – that is T3 in me). But the thing I remember most is that my life felt so balanced at that point because IT gave me something to be deep about in stead of putting my focus and deep thinking on a person and becoming critical which usually caused contention or some friction in a relationship.
Becky
July 1st, 2011 at 4:48 pm
Wow, I can see my mother in law in this one. She really deeply thinks everything, but at times ends up very scattered. I am guessing that is because she is overdoing? That really helps because now I can remind her to come up for air.
July 4th, 2011 at 10:48 am
I thought I was a 3 till I read the Type 4 section and I laughed all the way through!! I instantly knew I was a 4 with Secondary 3 and a little 2 thrown in (I’ve saved things and always felt I should be more 2-like for their sweet natures). This series has been great to help us understand ourselves and others better. Now, if I could just sift through all the gathering of “facts” and be confident about what I think that would be great! But when I’m careful I find others listening to me and actually liking me!!–a new and thrilling experience for me. (I plead guilty to being overwhelming about everyone else knowing her Type, duh! How Type 4!) I’ve also noticed that I’m annoyed with other T4′s and their rigid characteristics! A father and oldest brother were overwhelming in their 4-ness. That’s been something I’ve been afraid I was in the past and have practiced holding my tongue till I knew I was “right.” Perhaps uncharacteristically, I pride myself on being open minded. In the past I couldn’t stand being pigeon-holed, but this has shown me who I am–finally, and changed my life!! I’ll always be grateful!! Thank you!!!
July 5th, 2011 at 11:08 am
Hi Heidi,
I’m a yin T4 and I agree with you about being irritated at other T4′s (yang ones). I feel that I know that I can be judgmental so I try really hard not to be so I get irritated at other T4′s who don’t make that effort. I guess that’s just another way to be judgmental but I try not to judge them when I am around them. I guess its a good lesson for me to practice letting go of judgment.
Leisa
July 4th, 2011 at 12:34 pm
As a type 4 trying to move around in the dating world, I have often been told that I overanalyze and overthink every relationship I encounter. It’s been wonderful to find this validation through Energy Profiling so that I can recognize I do that and use it to my advantage.
July 4th, 2011 at 1:39 pm
Heidi
You, truly, are honored and have earned your rewards.
July 4th, 2011 at 4:13 pm
I just wanted to say that I have a type 4 daughter who is 15. Her secondary is a type one. So she is a bouncy, good-natured, rule-inforcing, happy, sure about who she is and doesn’t judge herself girl who’s eyes don’t move when she smiles. She is great.
July 4th, 2011 at 4:26 pm
I have been told that I think to much. That I over analyze everything. So now I know why, lol. I have a very blended personality due to my past but I am finally finding peace knowing that I am who I am suppose to be. Thank you so much Carol and family for showing us the best in all of us. I needed this to help me get back to being who I really am without feeling any shame in not being all things to all people. I can be me and not feel bad about it. Now to shut off my brain and go to sleep. Now I understand why I over think things and need to find a way to put my energy into something physical. Thanks again, I truly appreciate your insight into the 4 energy types.
July 4th, 2011 at 11:38 pm
As a 1/4 with the secondary 4 being quite strong, I’ve also been told numerous times that I “think too much” or that I’m “over analyzing” or
that I’m “too deep.” Between my Type 1 desire to have fun and my secondary Type 4 tendency to be over analytical it’s been extremely hard to choose one career path and stay with it. I’ve talked with other 1/4′s who have experienced the same problem with choosing a career. The 1/4 combo makes choosing one career almost impossible. So, for all you 1/4′s out there I highly recommend Barbara Sher’s book “Refuse to Choose.” It’s written for people like us.
July 5th, 2011 at 11:19 am
Thank you so much for this! Just hearing this, helps me to relax and tell myself that I can just let go of what it is that I’m over thinking at the moment. I think it may be especially hard for T4′s to “Be,Do,Think” (instead of “Think,Do,Be or whatever the sequence is) because we naturally think: “I have to think of something to do so fix the problem”. Just being is really a foreign concept but when I do it, it is such a relief. Knowing that it is okay to stop thinking and analyzing is such a gift. Also, understanding that overanalyzation is a tendency of T4 instead of a result of some childhood trauma is a relief. I find all of your T4 videos so helpful.
July 6th, 2011 at 8:23 am
Katie, I can relate to everything you shared in your comment.
July 8th, 2011 at 7:53 pm
One thing that really helps me as a Type 4 is to write things down. Then I can get them out of my head and focus on what is really important. Of course, this is only necessary when I am overwhelmed because I’ve overcommitted myself. So, as I clear out the old commitments I have made and start only committing to those things that are truly important to me, I don’t expect I’ll need to do this anymore
July 9th, 2011 at 12:13 am
Since learning more of the innate truth of my nature, I have less cause to feel frustrated with others. Something about honoring my self takes out the war that seemed to be going on underneath the surface – the one where because I was not honoring myself, others were less able to honor me, and I therefore felt less congruent and unconsciously frustrated due to feeling dishonored. I remember feeling so tired of being considered wrong in some way because of my deep thinking and intellect which I began to turn into a positive just before discovering IJMN. I always seemed to give others so much room to be fully themselves. Now I am also giving myself permission, I know who I am, I honor my nature, I am finding congruent and honoring ways to channel my gifts into positives and also have more tools to honor others by encouraging their true natures to be discovered and lived. Honoring my true nature has brought a relationship into my life in which I am loved for exactly who I am within less than 4 weeks of my deciding that reality was not only possible, but necessary if I was to be in another relationship. Wow! Because of DYT he saw who I was on the outside, and knew what he was getting into
. I honestly don’t much care if I have a secondary nature and like to laugh at myself that I am T4/T4. Thanks to Carol’s book, I am loving my 4ness….thoroughly, deeply, and lovingly with no apologies – just a T4 smile.
July 11th, 2011 at 6:47 am
Thanks to the type 4′s who took the time to share to help others.
November 18th, 2011 at 8:04 pm
I also thought I was type 3 until I read the type 4 profile in the book. It was such a relief to really KNOW. I had been second guessing myself through every profile till I truly got to mine. I am a secondary type 3 & have at times absolutely gloried in my fast-paced, multi-tasking abilities. However, I truly need those still, quiet times. I have not fully figured out the face profiling yet, which drives me bonkers because I’m not 100% sure what types all my family members are, which makes it hard to figure out a ‘program’ to better relate to them. I also tend to overdo stuff (maybe my secondary type 3 brings out that particular type 4 quality more markedly) & my family members are very wary of ‘my’ energy healing modalities. I am slowly learning to sit back a little more, align my spiritual energy & let the Universe, Angels & God bring me the things I need & want. As a type 4, I figure that is the most natural way to bring about my desires…’Be Still & Know that I am God’. I love that scripture. It is the one that Spirit most often reminds me of. God knows best, I guess.