Have a “to do list” a mile long? The best way to simplify your life might surprise you.

What’s even more surprising is that nothing else you do will have a bigger effect on your happiness and energy than what I’m about to tell you. It has nothing to do with clearing your schedule or de-cluttering your space… and it has everything to do with YOU.

Why we make to-do lists

In my book, Remembering Wholeness, I teach that we came into this world with our souls intent on remembering who we actually are. In this life, we are searching for a remembrance of our highest self—our god-self.

How do we remember? By experiencing who we are not. And this is one of the ways we do it…

On our path to remember, we sometimes try doing our way to wholeness.

But our doings don’t matter as much as our being does. In fact, our doings sometimes distract us from owning our emotional stuff and remembering our true natures.

Think about it. If we had to do our way to happiness, this life would just turn into a big checklist!

Remember your wholeness first. Embrace just being your best self, and all the right doings will naturally follow.

You won’t have to simplify your to-do list… it will simplify itself!

It’s true. The minute you stop basing your self worth on all that you accomplish, and just accept and love yourself for who you are (right now!), you will simplify your life like you’ve never imagined.

So stop that negative self-talk of “I can’t keep up,” and “I can never do anything right.” You don’t have to! And if you keep trying to “do” your way to perfection, you will just feel overwhelmed and stuck.

Stop believing in doing perfect. And follow God’s counsel to be perfect.

You already are.

God Bless You,
Carol Tuttle

PS. For additional help in remembering your true nature and simplifying your life, read my book, Remembering Wholeness.

Before you can make your wife happy, there’s something you need to know about her…

It is REALLY important to your wife that you’re truly listening and paying attention to her when you say you are.

Sounds easy enough, right? But there’s a catch:

Your wife knows when you are really paying attention and when you are not.

You might look like you’re listening. You might act like you’re listening. But your wife intuitively knows if you’re tuning her out!

So what do you do?

A man who is operating from his masculine core has a stronger tendency to only be able to tune into one thing at a time.

So when your wife wants to talk with you, you must decide if now is the best time to tune in to her. Ask yourself, “Can I give my wife 100% of my attention right now?”

If the answer is no, don’t just tune her out or tell her no! Lovingly tell your wife you want to give her all your attention—and determine a time (that same day!) that you will be available to do that.

For example, she might try to talk to you while you are watching a football game, working on a project, or reading the newspaper. If you are already involved in an activity that has your attention, lovingly tell her you want to give her 100% of your attention and decide together when that time will be.

This will make your wife happier than you know

When you have chosen to listen to your wife, give her ABSOLUTELY 100% OF YOUR ATTENTION.

Do nothing else but look at her and listen, really hearing what she is saying. You will be amazed by how much more quickly she wraps it up when you do this, because she knows she is being heard.

It is only when your attention is divided that your wife intuitively knows you are not hearing her, and she will demand more time to express herself. Try it out and see if you make your wife happy today.

May you and your wife hear and honor one another’s needs—and be happy together!

God Bless You,
Carol Tuttle

PS. Last week, I gave some advice to wives about how to help your husbands hear you. If you missed it, read it here: 3 Surprising Reasons Your Husband Doesn’t Listen to You.

PPS. If you want to better understand the nature of masculine and feminine energy in marriage, listen to my audio recording on Marital Bliss.

“Why won’t my husband listen to me?”

If you’ve ever said that, you don’t have to stay frustrated. If you feel like your husband doesn’t listen, you might be surprised to find that you can change the pattern without changing him at all!

Here are 3 surprising reasons your husband doesn’t listen. Try out my tips and see what changes…

1. You talk too much (without saying more).

Because many women suffer from a feeling of not being heard, they try to make up for it by talking more than necessary.

A husband will often tune out his wife after 10-15 minutes. When that happens, the wife intuitively notices she’s not being heard and talks more, in an attempt to get his attention. Husbands pick up on an energy of resentment and often deal with it by tuning out even more. Have you ever experienced a moment like that?

Your husband will listen better if you just share what you want to say in a few minutes.

2. You catch him at the wrong time.

Some women ask their husbands to listen when they’re already in the middle of something.

Of course, you want your husband’s attention, but if he’s already focused on something else, he naturally won’t be able to give it to you 100%. Talk before he starts a project—and if you don’t, respect his time and let him finish.

3. You believe he won’t listen.

If you’ve ever been caught in the first two patterns, you probably found yourself saying again, “My husband doesn’t listen to me!”

When you put that out there, you only set the stage for it to happen again. Great communication is the foundation of any good marriage. So communicate what you need. Try this:

“Honey, I really want you to pay 100% attention to what I want to share with you.
When could you give me that?”

It is okay and appropriate to expect that attention and time from your husband! When he gives it to you, share what you want in a time frame that honors his attention span and your needs.

He will be shocked when you say, “I’m done.” He will exclaim, “Really?” And he’ll be even more willing to listen the next time.

May you and your spouse both listen to one another with respect and love.

God Bless You,
Carol Tuttle

PS. Come back here next week for some tips that husbands need to hear!

PPS. If you want to better understand the nature of masculine and feminine energy in marriage, listen to this recording: Marital Bliss

I’ve discovered something so many times that it’s not really a discovery anymore…

A lot of people in this world aren’t very kind to themselves.

And that’s too bad because every person on this planet is a gift!

No matter where you are on your journey to create an amazing life, these 5 reminders will help you be kind to yourself.  Say them out loud and see how they make you feel…

5 Kind Things You Need to Hear Yourself Say

1. I am worthwhile and my needs matter.

Do you believe you are enough and your needs are valid? If not, it is time to be honest. If you believe you are anything less than wonderful, powerful, appreciated, and honored, you are believing a lie that is keeping you stuck. God is kind and will reveal the truth to you if you ask.

2. I am speaking the truth and what I say is important.

Stop criticizing yourself and going over things you think you did wrong or things you regret saying.

One way to let it go: hold your neurovascular points—the points right above each eye on your forehead—for about 15-20 minutes while you are going off on a tangent in your head. It will quiet it and stop it.

3. I am grateful for my healthy body.

It’s easy to become sedate and immobile in our time. Life force energy is stagnant and stuck for many people. So get out and move your body! It can be something as simple as walking or stretching.

Even if you feel like you don’t have a completely healthy body, express gratitude to your body for what it can do! Being kind to your body will charge it with positive energy and affirmation.

4. I am being kind to myself and to others today.

When you catch yourself about to say something negative about yourself, just stop. Remind yourself that you are being kind to yourself today.

This doesn’t work unless you show gratitude and kindness to others, too. What you offer to others you only offer to yourself.

5. I am powerful, and I am using my power to make a difference in this world.

For support to create your life, use the “Daily Script” in my book, Remembering Wholeness. You can find it in the back in the Appendix. Reading this script gets your day going in a vibrant positive energy.

I read it everyday for months. I still read it several times a week.

May you have the kind of day that leaves you feeling amazed and grateful. Be kind to yourself!

God Bless You,
Carol Tuttle

Whether we’re married or single… we all want love.

The desire to give and receive genuine love is just designed into our human nature. It’s part of our purpose on this planet.

So how can you create and enjoy the kind of love you’re looking for this year?

Put these tips into practice (don’t just read them once and forget them). You will be amazed at the opportunities to give and receive love flowing into your life!

1. Love yourself first—and stop apologizing!

If you don’t receive love, you don’t have love to give. And one of the most important people you need to receive love from is yourself.

So next time you notice you’re about to put yourself down or apologize for yourself to others, just stop. Think of (and share!) a compliment about the person you are with. If you’re by yourself, give yourself a genuine compliment.

You will find that the focus of your conversations and thoughts stays much more positive when you express love instead of doubt or worry.

2. Write a new script.

We condition people around us to play certain roles in our lives. If you want to invite more joy into a relationship, change the current script. You can do this in a very real way.

Create a script for your loved one (or the true love you have not yet met). If you need some script ideas, click here. Write in detail what you believe your ideal companion would be like. Then live by that script yourself!

3. Make decisions about what you say

We have an opportunity to think any thought and speak any word we choose. Whatever we focus on expands. Make the choice to say only positive things about the people you love, even when they’re not around—especially when they’re not around.

4. Pray for the opportunity to share unconditional love… and watch miracles show up.

Consider the word unconditional. It means unlimited, unrestricted, absolute, complete, with no conditions attached. These are the characteristics of God. Experiencing unconditional love (both by giving and receiving) is miraculous.

If you want to share unconditional love, have the courage to ask for it in prayer. Miracles will show up in ways you least expect. In fact, you may act as someone else’s miracle. When we are in an energy of unconditional love, we are in a powerful position to bless and grace the lives of others.

May this year be filled with opportunities to give and receive genuine love.

God Bless You,
Carol Tuttle

PS. For more support in inviting love into your life, read my book, Remembering Wholeness.

Imagine yourself a year from now.

Will you be as happy, strong, and healthy as you want to be?

Or will you still carry some energetic wounds and limiting beliefs that need healing?

The choice is yours, of course. You have the power to create your own life.

I know how important support can be in your journey toward healing and light.

I want you to just read the table of contents from my book, Remembering Wholeness, to see if anything here resonates with you. Are there any chapters on this list you’d like to know more about?

1. Energy What?
2. We Choose Every Thought We Think and We Can Create Any Thought We want
3. Energy Follows Thought and Every Subconscious and Conscious Thought Creates Our Lives
4. We Choose Our Perception and Our Perception Becomes Our Reality
5. Whatever We Put Out Returns to Us Multiplied
6. We Create What We Experience
7. Our Most Powerful Point of Creation Is in the Present Moment
8. We Have Always Been Whole
9. Birth Leaves an Imprint that Starts Our Life as a Struggle
10. The Power and Purpose of Negative Emotion
11. Affirmations Work
12. Physical Disease Has an Emotional and Mental Origin
13. Why We Hold on to Disease and Disharmony
14. Energy Healing for Depression
15. Healing Can Happen Quickly
16. Receive Your Healing Now
17. The Earth Has a Soul and Is Changing
18. We can Change the Way We Feel Instantly
19. The Universe Always Holds Us Accountable
20. Everything We Experience Outside Ourselves Is Just a Mirror for Us
21. Your Energy Speaks Louder than Your Words
22. How Much Joy Can You Hold?
23. We Are All One
24. Everyone is Psychic
25. Unconditional Love Is the Most Powerful Force in the Universe
26. Angels Are Among Us
27. How to Petition Your Angels
28. The Power of Synchronicity
29. You Are a Creator
30. I Am Doing Everything You Teach—Why Can’t I Manifest What I Want?
31. Energizing Your Beliefs to Manifest More of What You Want
32. Your Child May Be a Highly Evolved Master Being
33. Knowledge Has Organizing Power Inherent in It
34. The Purpose of the Planet
35. We Lived As Spirits Before We Came to Earth
36. Each of Us Has Spiritual Brothers and Sisters Who Are Not in Our Biological Family
37. We All Made Sacred Agreements Before We Came to Earth
38. Saviors on Mount Zion
39. Do You Believe in the Real God?
40. How to Have Your Own Conversation With God
41. Feel Your Prayers
42. All the Answers Are Inside of Us
43. Everyone in Your Life Plays a Part in Your Play, With a Script You Have Given Them
44. Since Everyone in Your Life Plays a Part in Your Play—With a Script You Have Given Them—You Can Change the Scripts Any Time
45. How to Keep Yourself Stuck
46. It’s About Healing Marriages, Not Breaking Them Up
47. The Ten Lies We Think Are Love
48. It’s About Healing Families, Not Breaking Them Up
49. Messages Your Children Need to Hear
50. Your Spirit Is Whole and Complete
51. Forgiveness Is Not Optional
52. There Is Enough Money for Everyone
53. The Universe Is Abundant
54. Serving Others Helps Us Remember Our Wholeness
55. The Power of Appreciation and Gratitude
56. The Test Is Ending
57. Remembering Our Future
58. I Believe in Christ
59. There Is a Christ in All of Us
60. Charity: The Pure Love of Christ

Use Remembering Wholeness as a guide for your emotional healing and growth. What do you want to improve in your life this year? How do you want to thrive? This book can inspire  you.

Already read Remembering Wholeness? I’m so glad. I hope you are truly thriving!

Leave a comment and share which idea from the book has stuck with you the most. Which concepts have been most healing and supportive for you?

Now think of a friend who might benefit from the messages in this book. Consider sending them this blog post or getting them a copy of the book. Share the message that in order to be truly happy, we need to remember the truth of who we are.

God Bless You,
Carol Tuttle

PS. Get a copy of Remembering Wholeness here.

It is hard to believe we are saying goodbye to another year.

I hope this year has been one of learning and growth, patience and understanding, and celebration and memorable experiences for you.

It is not easy being alive at this time on the earth. We are being asked to expand and open, to let go of what is no longer serving us.

I am sure you had some struggles this year. The good news is you got through it! You are a better person because of it. You have learned many lessons and will bring them in to the new year. Hurray for you!

Please take some time today or tomorrow to list 10 things you have learned this year that will bless your life in 2012. Here are mine:

1. I learned to love myself more and be more patient with my growth.
2. I learned that I will be a grandma two more times next year!
3. I learned how to communicate with my husband in a manner that honors him and me both.
4. I learned to really love and honor my parents as they live the last few years of their life.
5. I learned how to wake surf without using the tow rope on the back of our boat!
6. I learned how to win more tennis matches because I put in a lot of time practicing.
7. I learned I love to serve people and help them more than I have ever felt in my life.
8. I learned to let go of things that really, really don’t matter.
9. I learned more about how to parent a child true to their nature.
10. I decided to write my next book and learned how very excited I am about that.

If you felt last year that you had to learn and grow through struggle, consider the possibility that this year, you can learn and grow through joy! How much joy can you hold? I really want you to find out this year.

I would love to hear what you learned in 2011. Please share in a comment. And then go use those things you learned to create an amazing new year in 2012!

God Bless You,
Carol Tuttle

PS. I’m excited to support you in creating fabulous experiences in 2012. Come back here to the blog on Monday to hear a new twist on New Year’s resolutions. I think you’ll really enjoy it.

Happy New Year!

This sounds too easy, but I want you to try it…

Whenever you feel overwhelmed this week, just take a big sigh and let it go.

I don’t mean just one breath in and out. Let me tell you what I mean by a big sigh. And then let’s practice together so you can stop feeling overwhelmed, right now!

Take a deep breath in, pull your shoulders up towards your ears, and tighten up your body…

Now breathe it all out, drop your shoulders, loosen all your muscles, and shake out like a dog…

And let that energy go. Feel all that up-tight energy physically leaving your body.

Now that you have let it go from your body, really let it go….

Turn it over to your angels, to God, and all the spiritual powers that BE to take care of it for you.

The next time you start feeling negative or overwhelmed, pay attention to the negative emotion.

Stop and ask yourself and God: What am I currently thinking, believing, or choosing that is causing me to feel overwhelmed?

Stay quiet and you will receive the answer. Listen to your inner guidance system.

Ask God to bless you with an understanding and perception of your experience that will invite and awaken peaceful, soothing feelings inside of you instead.

Ask to have negative feelings cleared from the deepest parts of your cells. And then be willing to let them go!

Now remember: take a big sigh… and let it go.

You will be amazed how much better everything works out for you.

Rejoice!

God Bless You,
Carol Tuttle
Master Energy Therapist

PS. Don’t let yourself get overwhelmed this time of year. I’ve created so many resources to support you in letting go of negative feelings and limiting beliefs. Give yourself the comfort and help you need by clicking here.

What a fun surprise!

I was filming videos to share with you here on the blog. And guess who jumped on camera to surprise me, with singing and everything!

You’ll just have to watch the video to find out. I’ll give you a hint: it’s someone’s birthday…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=el9FqQTx2mk

Such a great surprise from my fabulous family. And can you believe that hat?

Thanks for reading The Carol Blog and sharing your energy and comments here online. You are truly a gift to me—and to the rest of the world!

I really do want to talk to you about how to use the lessons you learned in 2011 to really help you in to 2012. Look for that video here on the blog next Monday!

Whether you are with friends or loved ones, we hope you enjoy your Christmas this year and feel the great love God has for you.

Please enjoy this slideshow of my family in the years of Christmas gone by.

Merry Christmas to all of you!

God Bless You,
Carol Tuttle

PS. Looking for last-minute gift ideas? Give a gift of yourself. Click here to see what I mean.

And if you’re looking for a Christmas miracle, read my reminder here.

I hope your holiday weekend is fantastic!