If you’ve ever wished you could change someone in your life, this post could change everything for you.
Consider the possibility that you can’t really change other people, but that what you perceive about them influences your experience with them.
In other words, whatever you believe about someone else is what you will experience with them!
Our perception of others puts out an energy that keeps influencing the experiences that we keep having with them. You can’t change other people, but you can change how they respond to you by what you project to them. For example:
- If you perceive another person as selfish, you will experience them as selfish.
- If you perceive another person as difficult, your experience with them will be difficult.
- If you perceive another person as against you and hurtful to you, you will attract that experience with them.
- If you experience another person as kind and receptive to you, you will experience that with them.
We can change how people respond to us by changing ourselves.
When you change your own belief, you might feel like others have changed, when you are really the one who changed. Your own change allows a new experience to be created with others.
Notice which of your relationships need a shift in your perception.
Use this affirmation to start to change those relationships:
I am seeing and bringing out the good in everyone I know. I am grateful that I naturally and easily evoke the best qualities in others.
If you’ve already experienced a change like this, share your story below. If you’re going to try this today, leave a comment and share what you plan to change. I would love to hear from you.
Watch how people start to change, just because you did!
God Bless You,
Carol Tuttle
Master Energy Therapist
Your life reflects back to you what you believe. If you want to change your life, you need to change your perceptions and release your limiting beliefs. Get the support you need for your emotional healing with the many life-changing resources available at the Carol Tuttle Healing Center!
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September 20th, 2011 at 1:14 pm
Hi Carol,
Just a comment that I live my life like this! I always expect the best outcome of each of my relationships, so when I don’t get these expected results, then I know I have stuff coming up that needs to be worked on. It’s a great barometer for helping my understand where I am in my journey for enlightenment and growth.
Thanks for all you do, you are the best! :^)
September 20th, 2011 at 8:47 pm
This really works – and at first when I tried this – I didn’t think of it as changing someone else, it was simply experiencing their good qualities. It worked so well that it freaked me out and I actually then ended up going backwards and attracting scenarios I did not want because I couldn’t believe it was really happening. Yet, I never questioned before when I attracted “bad” scenarios – I assumed THOSE just happened. And I was so used to being hurt in relationships, this “normalcy” of being treated bad didn’t seem unusual – but to attract the best out of people, to be loved, to have people enjoy my company? What was THAT all about?
I gotta tell ya though – though it may feel strange at first, it’s a lot more pleasant to feel loved, consistently. And eventually, it starts to become your norm. And, even if you screw up, I’ve also learned that nothing is beyond fixing. You just gotta have the courage to allow yourself to be loved. Go for it!
September 21st, 2011 at 6:42 am
I grew-up in a family where I wasn’t loved or wanted. And have carried most of these feelings of rejection into my adult life. And of course the story of rejection was repeated.
Through the years,as I have experienced healing, I have begun to notice that people are not rejecting me as before. Often I am really surprised how much people like and respect me. What I do and say hasn’t changed all that much, but what I think about myself and how I feel about others has. People really do respond to that!
Maybe it’s better a deal to change our own thinking than to be trying to change others.
September 24th, 2011 at 11:00 pm
I’ve really taken to heart the truth that everyone is a mirror of how you see yourself. As I rewrite my own core beliefs about myself, the people I encounter reflect those shifts back to me. When I respect myself, others do as well. When I perceive my nature as a gift, others are blessed by my life. When I receive love from myself, I receive it from others. Ultimately, it ALL comes back to me.
September 26th, 2011 at 6:11 am
I’ve also experienced the simple power of this philosophy! It’s sometimes difficult to keep in mind, especially when I’m dealing with someone that I’ve decided to dislike. But when I finally do make the shift with that person, the results never fail to amaze me! Thanks for putting this amazing and amazingly simple phenomenon into words for the rest of us, Carol!