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Back to School: How to Help Your Child's Teacher Understand Your Type 2 Child

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Welcome back to our Back to School series. Last week we discussed the Type 1 Fun-Loving child.

In this video, my daughter Anne (a Type 2) and I share about the Type 2 Sensitive child and how you can help them thrive in school.

Type 2 children move through life with a more methodical process, observing their world, gathering information, and then making a plan.

Because they are naturally more sensitive than the other Types, Type 2′s are often tuned in to how other people are feeling in the classroom and they make sincere connections.

They also like to accommodate and not let anyone down, which can sometimes get them into trouble.

Watch the video and also learn what Type 2 children excel at in school that you can suggest the teacher to assign to your child.

Plus, hear some great stories that Anne shares about her experiences as a Type 2 in school.

What tips can you share as the parent of a Type 2, to help your child and their teachers? Or if you’re a teacher, what have you noticed?

What if my child doesn’t want to go to school?

Type 2 children will often internalize their anxiety, which can make them feel sick. If your child is often complaining of stomach aches or telling you they don’t want to go to school, find out the root cause.

It could be that your child feels uncomfortable with the teacher or something that happened in the classroom.

Give them time to get comfortable

Because Type 2′s need time to think and process, they don’t like to feel uncomfortable by being put on the spot, especially in front of people.

Tell the teacher to give your child advance notice before asking them to get up in front of the class or do something outside of their comfort zone.

Thanks for watching. And look forward to my upcoming parenting book, due for release in Fall 2012.

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Carol Tuttle

Carol Tuttle is a teacher, speaker, healer, and best-selling author of five books. She has dedicated her life to helping people worldwide create the lives and relationships they desire. She blogs to support you in creating your ideal life.

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  • Helen Jones

    Hi Carol and Anne
    Thanks for that info on Type 2s. It helped me realize a lot of things about my school days (long since gone!) and about how, in setting up my business, I am taking advice from Type 1s and trying to be like them. And it has been causing me much anxiety! This is a great realization. I can create a business the Type 2 way. Where is the best place to get profiles on these different types?

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  • Suzy

    I’m a type 2 and a had a great teacher that recognized that I didn’t do well with being put on the spot. She’d tell me what math problem to do, and then call on other students and then come back to me for the answer. When she’d forget, she’d just laugh and say: sorry, I forgot, why don’t you take problem (whatever) and then let me know when you’re ready. She was probably my all time favorite teacher.

  • Sarah

    Another way type 2′s can struggle in school is by agreeing to take on too much. When I was a senior in high school, I was taking many advanced courses, in addition to participating in several extracurricular activities. My teachers kept asking if I wanted to take on extra assignments or projects, like becoming the copy editor for the school newspaper, teaching a writing workshop for younger students, tutoring students that weren’t getting the material, competing in a year-long scholarship competition, etc.

    While these were all great opportunities, I wasn’t capable of doing everything at once. With my type 2 accommodating nature, I couldn’t say no. I kept trying to make it work. I juggled everything, completing each task in the last few minutes before the deadline. I stayed up very late each night trying to finish my homework & stressing about how I would get it all done. I made myself sick with anxiety and could barely eat.

    By midway through the year, I was slipping. I started turning in assignments late and having trouble focusing in class. All I could think about was my overwhelming to-do list & how I had to come up with a plan to get everything done. I almost didn’t graduate because I was failing calculus & physics. Those subjects didn’t come naturally to me & required more studying & concentration than I was capable of at the time. I was an honor roll student who was already enrolled in some college-level courses, but I was looking at not graduating from high school. I get a knot in my stomach just thinking about how stressed I was.

    In addition to the great tips in your video, I recommend that parents & teachers of type 2′s really focus on communication. If my teachers had communicated with each other, they would have known that they were all giving me extra projects at the same time. Only looking at their own subjects, they thought I could handle it. If my parents had talked to the teachers more about how overwhelmed I was, they could have prioritized & cut back the things I was doing.

    The bottom line is that type 2′s don’t take a suggestion or idea as an option. Especially if it’s from someone in a position of authority or respect, a suggestion may as well be an order. And they WON’T tell you when it gets to be too much. Instead, they will assume that they are doing something wrong or not good enough & that they have to find a way to meet what they think are your minimum expectations.

    • Cecily

      Thank you! That is so interesting about T2′s taking suggestions as orders. This really helps me understand my T2 5-yr old daughter! No wonder we’ve been miscommunicating… it’s almost funny looking back…. Her first day of school is tomorrow and I can’t wait to support her in her true nature!

  • http://kelleypen@livejournal.com Kelley

    Speaking as a type one parent of a type two daughter, I did have to go speak with her teachers and let them know they were overwhelming her. Even so, she still put a lot on herself and all the teachers seemed to think that their projects were more important than the others.

  • Michelle

    I had a Type 1 friend that I had a lot of fun with in school, but I also got in trouble with her. Now I get it!
    I also remember in 6th grade wanting to help a girl who didn’t have many friends with her wood project. I way over did it with the varnish. The tacher came along and had to “adjust” the coverage. Not only was I trying to help and be kind to the girl, but I wanted to project to have a soft, satin, Type 2 finish. :)
    Now I understand more why I don’t like to be put on the spot. And I hate to be put into a group to work on something and have to come up with ideas or answers quickly. And don’t ask me to be the spokesperson for the group!

  • Brittany

    The part about Anne and her 4th grade friend reminds me of myself. I do find myself trying to be accommodating to people I’m with by taking on attributes I think they have. But often I leave the situation with a yucky feeling that I’m not being myself. Maybe I’m too sensitive to making other people comfortable! It reminds me of when I was in college on a date with a guy friend. He tried to compliment me by saying he thought I was “compatible” and asked me to be his girlfriend. Yes, as a Type 2 I was probably compatible, but I didn’t want that to be his reason for dating me! We stayed casual friends. It was an uncomfortable night.

  • Alena Maria

    I really liked this video–a lot of it rings true. When I was in 7th grade, I won first place in the Science Fair for my grade (because I took care of all the details ;) ) and I did really well on the little (private) presentation I had to give to two judges, because I had the time to prepare. However, later, one of the judges called me up (without ANY previous warning) to give my presentation in front of the other winners. Immediately, my stomach transformed into one big knot and I started to get cold sweat down my spine… :P I couldn’t think properly with all of the eyes fastened on me all of a sudden. My presentation was memorized, so I didn’t do that well. :( I also agree with Brittany’s previous post–I can totally relate with the first part–I have the same problem with taking on attributes of other people, but ending up with a stomach ache and not feeling like myself! lol :)

    • Alena Maria

      I forgot to add that maybe some Type 2s don’t want to sit in the front of the classroom (at least I don’t). I prefer the back, because then all the eyes of the students behind you aren’t on your back, watching your every move…lol I feel really uncomfortable in the front of the room. You could possibly ask the Type 2 concerned what he/she prefers, if it is an option.