Energy Profiling teaches a system of 4 Types that we each have a dominant expression with. Quite often these expressions can be misunderstood when they are personified to an extreme in a person and as a result given labels that can also be inhibiting and limiting to a child. Carol shines more light on which of the 4 Types is most likely to have autistic tendencies and how understanding the nature of this Type of child can open up more awareness for both parent and child, which naturally creates more balance and harmony. Learn more about your Type and your child’s in Carol’s book, “It’s Just My Nature” at http://myenergyprofile.com
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August 5th, 2010 at 3:18 pm
My son who is 31 has a type of autism and is fairly high funtioning. He’s definitely a type 4, I’ve suspected this since I’ve read your books. It’s really helpful for accepting all his quirks and tendencies and sweetness.
I wonder also, are all 4 types spread out evenly across the planet, I mean like, 25% of each type? Or does one type predominate?
August 5th, 2010 at 3:50 pm
That is a great question, but I have no idea what the answer is! I am not sure if we could ever know for sure! Just glad Energy Profiling is helping you!
August 5th, 2010 at 9:43 pm
I have a 9 yr old son with autism and he definately leads with his type 4 energy. He is very structured and focused in most everything he does. I really began to understand his movement after I read your book “It’s Just My Nature.” It is wonderful to better understand him and how we can honor his truth. Thank you Carol for all the amazing information I have learned from you.
August 6th, 2010 at 2:45 pm
WOW! I was just discussing with my sister this very topic. I felt like the newphew she mentioned was a type 4 and that he was in need of a more structured environment AND that he was bored out of his mind. She thinks he is autistic… I felt he really needed a place to put his focus and prefection. And he is expected to be in a chaos and is going crazy (room full of cousins)
Have you noticed that a lot of type four will just hit out of the blue? My type 4 son does this and it seems that her nephew does too. I have also been watching others that I suspect are type 4 and they all seem to do this – more so when they don’t feel comfortable or when they feel no control.
August 7th, 2010 at 1:45 pm
Hi Holly, that is a good observation regarding the tendency for Type 4 children, especially boys to hit. Type 4′s need time to reflect on how they feel and to even get in touch with their feelings. If the environment they are in is a very high movement and they are not getting any one on one time with their mom or dad to talk about how they “feel” they will resort to hitting as their pent up energy needs to be expressed. My grandson was starting to hit his new little brother, and his mom, Jenny, my Type 1 daughter was worried and overreacted to it thinking he didn’t like his new brother. We talked, and I helped her see that a 3 yr old has no capacity to “not like” his little brother, that he had pent up energy he was experiencing as frustration with the changes in his life and his body was just trying to relieve itself from it! Also when a Type 4 is not being heard and feels overlooked due to a chaotic environment it is very frustrating for them and they get stressed and hit, we think they are angry which is not the case, they just need time of quiet and solitude on a regular basis. I know, I know, I need to write that parenting book!!
August 9th, 2010 at 9:15 pm
My five year old son is a primary type four (typed by Carol), but has very high movement to him. He really likes to always be on the go and create alot of movement. My husband and I really want to help our son take time be still, but he just wants to go, go ,go! We find that when we do allow him to just go, go, go, he is not a very fun person to be around by the end of the day. When we try to help him to take some still time, he refuses and just wants to play, play, play! What can we do to help him honor is primary energy movement more?
August 9th, 2010 at 10:08 pm
Hi Helen, with you being a Type 2 and your husband being a Type 4 and both being adults, a small child’s level of movement of any Type might seem challenging for you at times! My Type 4 grandson, Seth is 3 years old. On my last visit Jenny, his Type 1 mom was frustrated because Seth is very active all day long and gets tired and cranky by late afternoon. He was resisting taking a nap so that was not helping! We clued in to a couple things. In his 4ness he did not like the idea of a nap because in his mind he wanted to be treated like he was older and not like his baby brother. In his mind “babies” take naps and he wants to be treated like a “big boy.” So I explained to him he did not have to take naps anymore because he was not a baby, but he did need to take a rest everyday. I explained that he needed to take a rest in his room on his bed. He could look at a book, play with a couple toys and even go to sleep if he felt like it. I told him it was for 45 minutes and set a timer that he could see. He stayed in his room on his bed, and even fell asleep.
Another clue came from my son. Mark, Type 4 recently came over on a Sunday night with his wife and he was real groggy! He told me he had taken too long of nap and that he had a hard time waking up from them so late in the day. Jenny had also told me that if Seth sleeps too long in a nap he is fussy the rest of the day. So, I suggested to Jenny if Seth happens to fall asleep during his rest time, she should wake him up after an hour so he does not oversleep. She has done this several times and he is as pleasant as can be.
Hope this helps. Love Carol
August 10th, 2010 at 9:28 am
thanks a lot carol for the lengthy message. i guess i will just have to be more consistent at getting him to have some alone/quiet time besides when he is angry.:)
August 10th, 2010 at 11:27 am
If he has gone to the stage of anger, it is a red flag that he could have used some “rest” time!
August 10th, 2010 at 1:10 pm
i can call in with this question if you would rather b/c it is kind of long. have you ever heard of an angry 5 year old phase for boys? one of my friends mentioned her son just got out of that phase now that he is 6 and since she mentioned that, my husband and i have noticed that a lot of boys (maybe particularly type 4 boys) have gone through this angry phase. i started noticing this coming on a couple months before my son turned 5. knowing he is a type 4 i feel like i have plenty of one on one time with my son and i try to make sure he gets several calm times during the day, but that hasn’t seemed to help him. even just in the morning when he should be all bright and ready for a new day, he will have this burst of anger. my husband and i have never been immediately angry people with him, but we will get angry with him when we have asked him to do or not to do something several times and he has not listened. i do my best to give him choices so he feels like he is in control, but most of the time he won’t accept the choices and it’s like a switch is flipped. he goes bonkers with anger. i have to put him in his room for quiet time until he is ready to be calm b/c i have tried talking with him to help him work through the anger and it always ends up with me getting just as frustrated as he is. i have tried the magnet, processing, and tapping to help calm him and possibly help him to not get so riled up, but his anger has just gotten bigger. i am kind of at my wits end b/c i feel like i have so much to help me but nothing has worked. i also know that it is some kind of mirror to myself, so i have really dug deep to try and figure out what i have done to create this or what in me is feeling this way and i have found a couple things, but i just can’t seem to find the right thing that alleviates it. i feel like if anyone can help me it’s you carol. i have been relistening to a bunch of your radio shows and they have so many wonderful insights in to everything. i know i’ve said this before, but we love you and all your inspired work. you are amazing! thank you.