This is one of the most frequently asked questions Carol receives from women! Can my life shift in to more prosperity and affluence if my husband is still stuck in scarcity!! As you would expect Carol’s answer is incredibly insightful in helping you claim more of your truth and live the life you were designed to live – one of prosperity!
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November 30th, 2009 at 2:52 pm
Thanks a lot Carol,
This is super-enlightening to me as I’m living exactly the same situation with my mate. He’s still focused on the scarcity side, not only about money: he tends to be a bit pessimistic about everything, and he’s critical about everthing and anyone.
I don’t tend to stress myself or him too much about this (I’m not an anxious person) but I admit I tend to worry that he can influence my ability to create positive things in my life.
I must also say that in the past I used to try to “coach” him also on different matters. But, since I’ve been a fan of yours since 2006, I’ve been trying to give up coaching him as much as I can. And things have been improving indeed! As usual on these topics you are definitely right!
When he or somebody else says things I don’t like, I try to say in my mind: OK that’s for you, not for me, I choose to think differently.
Again, thanks for making us see things in the right perspective.
Ale
December 20th, 2009 at 8:01 am
Holy cow!! This hit me right between the eyes, for sure. I had never considered that all my mate’s negativity (everything from “the world’s spiraling downward into a cesspool of misery” to “what are the odds–it’s just my luck”) was a reflection of my own insecurity and negativity on the matter. And as you say,”coaching” just doesn’t work–so I’m done with that! I can see that my emotional response to whatever comes forth from him is not helping in any way, whatsoever! I can’t wait to start practicing “owning it” myself, and seeing what happens. I’ll keep you posted.
March 3rd, 2010 at 1:00 pm
I am a stay-at-home mom, so my husband is the only money maker in our family. I find it a challenge to stay positive thinking, when he doesn’t believe himself that he doesn’t deserve more financial abundance. I know we create our OWN reality, not our partners, but this is where it is so easy to be enrolled into the vision of scarcity. He gets to believe in himself that he deserves more, as well as myself. Otherwise, I don’t see how the energy flow of money can fill our bank account if he doesn’t believe it himself. I understand that the more positive I am, the easier it is for The Lord to assist me, however I don’t feel it’s all up to me when he is the only one “working”. Also, my idea of “financial abundance” is not in alignment with his. I feel we are abundant if we have $5. He feels we are broke no matter HOW MUCH we have. Am I just putting too much emphasis on his beliefs and allowing it to limit myself?