It's Not Too Late to Feel Beautiful As a Teenager!

Did you celebrate your beauty as a teenager?

Or do you look back and see your teenage self caught in an awkward, ugly duckling phase?

As women, we took on the lie and the shame that we were not beautiful as early as age 12 or 13! And many women go on thinking for years that this lie is true. You can let go of that lie and believe the truth that you are a beautiful woman, inside and out.

It’s time for my 2nd challenge to help you celebrate your beauty today—by helping you let go of a shame that no longer serves you.

Heal your inner teen. Can you think of a time in your teenage experience when you felt self-conscious or disliked the way you looked? Watch the video with that memory in mind and learn how to release your “inner teen” from the lies she believed back then:

How do you feel after watching that? How does your inner teen feel? I would love to hear your thoughts. Please share your comments.

Every time you feel that lie creeping back into your life, let go of it. Believe that you are beautiful. Give your inner teen the beauty mantra you created last week. And if you missed last week’s video, click here to participate in my first challenge to celebrate your beauty. There is so much about you to celebrate!

I’m sharing these 5 ways to celebrate your beauty because I’m so excited for the first ever Dressing Your Truth Annual Event—“Celebrate Your Beauty 2011.” Join me and hundreds of other women to celebrate our beauty at this amazing event being held August 18-20 in Salt Lake City, Utah. I can’t wait to see you there!

And make sure to check back next Wednesday for my 3rd way to celebrate your beauty in a brand new way.

Carol Tuttle

Carol Tuttle is a teacher, speaker, healer, and best-selling author of five books. She has dedicated her life to helping people worldwide create the lives and relationships they desire. She blogs to support you in creating your ideal life.

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  • Mairzie

    Yea! Thank you for fixing this! Great video. Thank you for this.

  • Ruth

    WOW … I was able to access the video and 56 yr. old Ruth had a GREAT talk with 14 yr. old Ruth. Thing is, she knew she was a T4 and fought to dress it in that 70’s kind of way. She also fought to be “popular” and really wanted to wear what the T1s and T2s could. She REALLY wanted to be cute and sweet. Really, really, REALLY. Even at 14 she was a very loving and compassionate girl, just not gushily so.

    We talked on a beach off the shores of MA. She was wearing her white two piece bathing suit she had to fight for (no ruffles, no girly pink) and had her long hair pulled straight back. (Fought off the highlights and the layers.) I told her she was beautiful … stunning, and that her time would come.

    How do I talk to her about poor decisions she made?

  • luckylady

    Sorry for any video problems, appears to have been a glitch with YouTube server. Video was public but for some unknown reason YouTube was giving Error and Private messages. Made some changes and hopefully it will stay working now. Enjoy!

  • N

    That was awesome. I have a question. My nose had what my brothers called a “ski jump” when I was younger, so that would have been a type 1 trait. I had a deviated septum surgery when I was 21 and they also took the bump off, so now I have a soft curve. I see S-curves on my face, and am a more of a type 2 personality, at least at this point in my life. What do you say about surgeries like that and types? Thanks for the healing work you do.

  • Melissa

    I found the manilla envelope I’d filled with embarrassing photos of myself ages 13-17. I’d labeled the outside of it “To Burn,” but never did bring myself to burn them. During the meditation Carol said to burn all the negative comments we’d made to our teenage self. Interesting she used the exact same words, but it was the negative perceptions and comments that needed burning, not the photos. Thank you, Carol. It was so healing to hear that and to do this meditation. I really embraced that shy, awkward, embarrassed, geeky girl and gave her a lot of love while I told her that she was a bright, animated type who was here to bring hope and inspiration to others. She didn’t know. Now she does. Looking at all those old photos I couldn’t believe how much of the cringe factor was due to not knowing my type. Only 100 percent! It’s deeply healing to now see there really wasn’t something inherently wrong with me. It was a simple matter of never being taught how to enhance my unique type of beauty. In every single photo I’m wearing something that would have looked great on a Type 2, or a Type 3 or a Type 4 and looked horrendous on me. Ditto for the hairstyles, glasses and make-up colors. It seems like I tried every look except Type 1, but I didn’t know what that was. Thank you again for bringing energy profiling and beauty profiling to the public so we can all learn the truth about our beauty. When I think about how close I came to ending it all when I was 17 because I felt so ugly, I hope you get this message out to as many teens and adults as possible. No one ever needs to feel ugly again.

  • Michelle Manning-Kogler

    A friend of mine recently sent me a picture of she and I at canyon-lands when we were in 7th grade. It brought back so many painful memories, yet as I looked at that pictures and studied that young woman I was then, I only see this strikingly lovely young woman – fit, tan, gorgeous hair and stunning smile. I remember thinking, “I sure wish I could have everything she had!”

    Then, after reading this blog post, I remember being in 7th grade and having a “beauty and fashion specialist” come in to talk to all the girls in my class about hair and makeup. I had a lot of Type 1 traits, but was wearing my hear in the classic 70’s mode of long and straight – which was exactly what my hair was! No bangs, just parted in the middle and down past my shoulders. It was always washed and beautifully shiny and I always felt like I dressed well.

    I was an early bloomer and very self-conscious about my rapidly developing body. I was very tall and thin – very “Twiggy-ish” (with breasts), yet I felt extremely uncomfortable with myself and my appearance. I was in the extreme phase of trying to fit in with the crowd – and never really felt like I did!

    This “expert” proceeded to completely tear me down in front of the whole class. My hair was wrong (my face was too long and thin to wear my hair that way), my makeup was wrong (too much mascara!!), my clothes were wrong (she never did say why). It felt like she tore me to shreds in front of the whole class – and not once did she tell me what I could do differently to make anything “right”!!

    My very shaky self-esteem took a severe beating that day. I’m honestly not sure that I’ve felt good about myself ever since, to be honest.

    And as I thought about this incident I reflected on how you teach women their types and how to lovingly come into their own by embracing who they truly are. I love how inclusive this message is – and it absolutely casts no “wrongness” or aspersions of the person – just shows each of us how to highlight our assets and be our very best!

    This meditation and this topic has really brought to my attention what needs to be healed within myself in order to feel good about myself. The interesting part is that I thought my self-esteem was pretty good now. But doing this exercise has shown me how important it is to bring that hurting teenager into the present and love her and comfort her.

    She truly was and is an amazing young woman! I am fortunate to be her, and I love her so dearly.

    Thank you Carol for your incredible work! It is such a gift to women throughout the world.


    • Carol

      Thank YOU for sharing your lovely and awesome story Michelle. Love- the REAL Carol Tuttle! (I do write these!)

    • Melissa

      Thank you for sharing your story. My heart goes out to the teenager you once were. That “expert” was no doubt jealous of your beauty or she wouldn’t have torn you to shreds publicly like that. Maybe inside she didn’t know or understand her own unique type of beauty so she tried to bring you down to build herself up in the eyes of everyone else. I’ll bet it backfired and the rest of the class saw through what she was doing whether they said anything or not.

  • helen

    i musta been hot.. and very innocent.. no wonder my parents didn’t want to let me out of their sight. They were traumatized by war and i was the Cheer-Up of the family.

    Had no awareness of being anything but a person, sewed most my own clothes- nothing like being your own designer (- no wonder i still have trouble paying a hundred dollars for a polyester dress, but honey i can get silk for that for twenty five!) Mum would complain i didn’t fit into store bought stuff (i knew i was in between sizes in those clothes).

    In high shcool Biology class, I remember hearing really tall skinny blondes in class complaining amongst themselves about weighing so much – 115 lbs. I thought, oh then i must be fat -only 5’7″ 135lbs. Then the self imposed dieting and not-enough-ing..and not-deserving. What a valiant person i/she were. Totally persistent, congruent all these decades…totally hanging with all those distorted beliefs. The men reflected those beliefs too -at Communications class (university, after failed marriage) I saw of video of me doing a talk -Oh I’m pretty! i exclaimed, I’m cute! Oh!! And later on i remember wondering about a boyfriend who had dumped me -Gees, under what rock did i find this one??
    … so we did a quickie journey up the time line…got as far as the 30’s.. will have to go again later.. need a break with a couple of cappucino’s we do…
    Thanks Carol, from my heart xox 🙂 h

  • Kat

    Thank you for this wonderful meditation, Carol! I can relate to Ruth and Melissa’s stories so well, too. My 54 year old self had a wonderful conversation with my awkward, 12 year old seventh grade self. I was judged by parents and relatives from around age 9 as being “big”. I was a tall young girl, and certainly bigger than my two year younger, small-framed, most-likely Type 2 sister. The message I internalized is “you are too fat”. This is a message I have carried all my life, and that I have believed. When I look at pictures of my younger self, I am not fat at all, but I believed that I was. I am a Type 4 who lived as a Type 2 through most of my young adult life. It is so interesting to see this video this summer. I have been working on releasing these beliefs about my size as part of my “Be good to Myself” program this summer. Having a conversation with my inner teenager was exactly what I needed to do! This poor girl has carried around a terrible burden for the past 40 years! My natural boldness was not encouraged or valued when I was a teenager; it has taken me a while to come into my own. Finding “Dressing Your Truth” last summer helped me to put a label on what I have probably known all my life, but didn’t know how to live – I am a Striking, Bold Type 4 woman, and I am very proud of it! I do need to have further conversations with my 12 year old self, so that she sees and believes this too! Thanks, Carol!

  • Kat

    Hi Carol

    I put a link to this video in my blog (


    • Carol

      Thank YOU Kat!

  • Julie

    Yea!! My 12 year old feels bouncy and fun now! After my meditation, I opened my eyes and saw that fun scarf behind you on the cute type 1 outfit that I have been thinking about buying and my 12 year old screamed BUY IT! So I imagined her wearing it and she looked great and felt wonderful. After that I screamed “I’m buying that scarf!” Needless to say I will buy it today for her and ME!! Thanks Carol

  • Brandy

    I would like to say that I had a very interesting experience with this video. Initially, my goal was to heal my inner teen with the issue of beauty. But, when I started, I remembered that as a teen, I never felt or thought I was ugly. In fact, deep down I knew I was a very beautiful girl. The interesting thing is I hated who I was as a human being. There was nothing wrong with me, but I had what I now call the “urkle complex”. I was extremely smart, but I felt as if I was viewed as a nerd vs. smart. Also, I had issues with attracting healthy relationships, both with my female friends and my male ones. The thing that Carol did to her 12 year old pic? I have that same thing in my yearbook, except I didn’t do it – one of my female friends did it. And I found my old diary, and it had story after story that just showed this belief that I wasn’t liked, I had extremely low self-esteem, and that is what made me cry. So in this exercise, instead of healing my beauty image, I did the same thing, and met myself as this pre-teen and talked about carrying the burden of being disliked, betrayed, whatever – and turned it into a supportive teen years where boys liked me, my girl friends were supportive and caring, and we took the inked out yearbook image and threw it into a burning can of garbage. From then on, I told teen me that she was loved and supported. I felt so much better and loved! Thank you for this exercise Carol! 🙂

  • Suzanna

    I didn’t do this exercise for the teen, I did it for the young adult. I previously thought I was ugly with a capital U! I see pictures from that time period and I just see ugliness…inward and outward. When I did this exercise I felt a healing within. I much rather have a memory of me being a constant still and beautiful 20 year old! The memories I am creating are surprisingly healing! Thank you Carol! I feel like I can now embrace her rather than deny she ever existed.